My fiance’s younger brother has been dating this girl for about 2.5 yrs and they r very serious. When my fiance n I were dating and not engaged, that girl and I used to talk and were on good terms. That girl’s best friend has had a crush on my fiance for the longest and this girl did everything she could to break me n him apart. I guess so her friend could get a chance with him. Anyways, so because of that, me n that girl stopped talking completely and I have not spoken to her in over a year. I got engaged to my fiance and she is still dating his younger brother. So, a few a days ago, I finished work and decided to go to the mall before heading home to do some shopping. I parked my car and walked inside and as I was walking, I started hearing some girls swearing on top of their lungs. I turned my head to see wat is going on and I saw that girl with her best friend (who is obsessed with my fiance) right behind me, screaming on top of their lungs, swearing at me. Calling me names and saying things like: btch, sut, wore, she’s so ugly, she got no blls, blah blah blah. People in the mall around us were turning their heads to see wat the heck is going on. I kept walking, pretending to txt on my cell so it seems like I am not paying attention to their juvenile behaviour. They followed me for 10 mins, swearing at me on top of their lungs. My bro-in-law to be’s gf was saying thing like “she’s so ugly, she has nothing on you” etc etc to her best frd. I did not even turn my head once, kept walking and finally took the escalator and they stopped following me. I told my fiance wat happened and he was quiet angry and spoke to his bro abt this. His bro said we r going to meet up in a couple of days and resolve this issue.
I just wrote this all here cuz I am sooo angry and I just needed to get it out. I mean do you guys think wat they did was mature at all? That girl is almost 21. How do u do that to someone? I wouldnt even do this to my worst enemy. GOD some girls can be so damn immature!
Wat would u ladies (or fellas) have done if u were in a situation where someone was following u in a public and swearing at u on top their lungs that people’s heads were turning to see wats going on?.. I’m honestly soo glad I kept my cool and did not make myself look like some low trash by swearing so loud in a public place. My fiance told me that if I had done something this low and disgusting, he would have called our marriage off and left me cuz he cannot spend his life with someone who has to no self respect to actually do something like this. I am going to let my bro-in-law to be know that if he still stays with this girl, I will lose all respect for him cuz he has no standards to be going out with such a trashy and low person. GRRR I am so angry!
angelfire ... thats sounds like someone from thorncliffe ... i've seen something like that happen at square 1 and its pathetic how low some ppl can stoop down to ... ahh well
you were so brave…i would have gotten back in my car and left and had a good cry while driving…then I would tell my fiance but I would also ask him not to talk to his bro or anyone about it… but that’s just me…i think what you did was admirable :hugzzz: and m sorry for how you must have felt while that was happening
:k: This isn’t immature attitude, this is plain mean.
God forbid, God forbid if you hadn’t been engaged, how can that girl be so sure that your fiance would have gone for her…Girls are so pathetic to think that they can make someone fall for them, it really amazes me :aq:
That’s freaking crazy and I’m amazed you kept your cool. Well done, because you’ve honestly come out on top in this situation
I would have definitely confronted them…or called security because that’s harassment and no one should have to deal with that sort of disgusting behaviour.
Is there any possibility that this girl will marry your BIL? because that’ll cause some issues…
You did the right thing. And you're right, it is SO low that I can't even imagine someone ACTUALLY doing that, especially someone I am associated to in some way.
You probably don't need to tell your bro-in-law that you'll lose respect for him if he marries her, because that is sort of like giving an ultimatum. DO let him know that you don't want ANYTHING WHATSOEVER to do with this girl EVER - his life is his, afterall.
He is going to get enough **** from your fiance and probably their parents, in addition to how he feels about it all. I am hoping your bro-in-law is reasonable enough, judging from what your fiance said about it, to be smart about this girl. This CAN be those once-in-a-lifetime things, but your bro-in-law would know best about the probability or anything similar repeating itself.
Yes, that's a very juvenile thing to do. And I'm not defending the girls' behavior............but I feel bad for the one that has a crush on your fiance. I think that deep down she must feel so rejected and so hurt.....in order to lash out on you like that. How low does one have to feel....to allow themselves to engage in such actions? I understand that's no excuse or justification for her poor behavior. But....I think often times when we're feeling hurt....we may take it out on others. While some people just get snippy and snide......others unfortunately go much further than that. Yes, she's jealous of you....but it's stemming from the hurt of rejection.
The girl with crush was acting out of hurt/bitterness......whereas her friends (whom I personally find to be MORE ridiculous) are blindly supporting her. They could have tried to support and soothe her in more positive ways. Instead they're engaging in actions that have degraded her AND themselves. Would being thought of as a "desperate girl" by her "crush" (your fiance) make her feel any better.....would it improve her reputation? No! If anything...considering how fast gossip flies.....such behavior can come back to bite her in the future.
******* I don't know if your brother-in-law-to-be would dump his GF. That's something that you and his bro (your fiance) can't control. He'll marry who he wants to be marry....but at least....knowing about this incident will encourage him to think about whether he still wants to pursue it.
******* A crush can warp your perceptions. Maybe this girl is hoping that your fiance will call the wedding off....because maybe to her "engaged" does not mean an official commitment. Maybe in some twisted way....she could be entertaining some hope. Maybe if your fiance talks to her....he can help her accept that he's not interested and that she needs to move on with her life. That way......she'll hear it from the source. I think if he talks to her nicely (though she may not deserve it).........she may even feel truly ashamed for her actions. Sometimes taking the higher road as opposed to exploding at the person....can humble a person enough to feel remorse.
Apart from your fiance speaking directly to that girl........another conversation should take place with you, your fiance, your bother-in-law, and his GF. That way the issue would have been discussed with all parties involved. Plus, if your fiance talks to his admirer....she'll hear everything directly from him.....and that way her evil friend can't manipulate the situation and make up lies.
You did the right thing. And you're right, it is SO low that I can't even imagine someone ACTUALLY doing that, especially someone I am associated to in some way.
You probably don't need to tell your bro-in-law that you'll lose respect for him if he marries her, because that is sort of like giving an ultimatum.
^Agree.
Don't give him ultimatums, that can backfire and do more damage than good. In the event that he DOES decide to marry this girl....if you show him through your body language that you're displeased (cold shoulder, disgust, etc).......that can cause problems in the family as well. So, just be careful of how you come across.
I'm surprised to read about such behavior. I wouldn't expect that... the public cursing, then following/stalking... from a dignified Pakistani girl. Which is my point, if your BIL has some class, he'll dump his gf. If he's serious about this girl and was planning on marrying her, I have a feeling he's going to rethink everything... his gf cursed at you- her potential future SIL- which was a really stupid move if she wants a future with your BIL to be.
You did the right thing by not confronting those girls. If by any chance your BIL's gf apologizes to you, go ahead and accept it to keep the peace in your in-laws household. But just be wary of any type of future retaliation from her or her best friend. And let your fiance know of everything that happens.
Btw, did they just by chance happen to run into you at the mall parking lot? Or do you think had it all planned out and may have followed you from work?
