Girl Problem

[STA]

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@queen_24

Seriously?.. matlab seriously STA??

doesnt chocolate and flowers count as lovey dovey gesture. CM does it all the time with Party.

[queen_24]

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main chup ker jaati hun..

[Moodie_Foodie]

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Girls play dumb when they say oh I didn't know you liked me. THEY KNEW but they never liked you back!! So this girl, doesn't like you back and is being polite about it. Sorry for sounding liek a u know what but ish the cold hard truth.

[ABC1111]

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@Reha

Continue to get to know her. Girls take time to open up and let someone into their personal space.

Thats the plan but at the moment I have no cards to play except ask her again for study session which honestly seems creepy now

@Pakilarka

From My Experience she is interested in you too, She is expecting you to be upfront about it and tell her that you like her. She is also acting cold and not letting you think that she is interested in you.

I wud recommend asking for coffee a couple of more times and most likely you will fail. After that you can tell her that you only ask for hHelp so you can spend some time with her.

If it works come and tell us, if it doesnt work… Download Pankaj Udhaas’s old ghazals they will help.

Thanks! Lets see what happens next when I make my move

@The_Last_Straw

She’s inviting you to ask for her help and tells you that it doesn’t have to be about studies. Can’t get any more obvious than that. She’s got the hots for you. Go get her, tiger.

She specifically said studies but the problem is that she now acts cold. Even on the phone it seemed like she was just fulfilling a formality

@Mad_Hatter

Oh dear lord the poor girl.

And when poor Mr ABC1111 gets carted away by the police, he’ll be babbling “But the Guppans on Life 1 told me to do it…they did!..they did!..”

Lol nice one! I would probably be more worried about her brothers than the police

@_Passionate

She’s just not that into you.

ok…

@queen_24

You really don’t seem to be very interested in her

What would you rather have me do? Stalk her? I am not the type of person who would stalk/harass someone just because I have their number or I like someone. I really really like her and that is why I am going through all this trouble.

[ABC1111]

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Girls play dumb when they say oh I didn't know you liked me. THEY KNEW but they never liked you back!! So this girl, doesn't like you back and is being polite about it. Sorry for sounding liek a u know what but ish the cold hard truth.

That is exactly what I feel when I think about it rationally. To me it just seems that she is being nice and thats it. But part of me wants to try again and maybe see if there is a chance. Maybe what others said is true and she indeed wants me to be upfront or something. Anyways all this has really taken its toll on me. I plan on making the final move in a couple of days and get it over with.

[ABC1111]

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@STA

doesnt chocolate and flowers count as lovey dovey gesture. CM does it all the time with Party.

I would have definitely done that if she was a bit more open but in the current scenario it seems awkward.

@queen_24

You really don’t seem to be very interested in her

I just realized what you meant and trust me I have wasted a lot of time thinking about her. Since last 1 month all I do is think about her and it has affected my social life and studies. I am now sort of fed up hence that comment

[STA]

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compliment her like she is intelligent. sooner or later she will notice you and think about you.

@queen_24

main chup ker jaati hun..

app ko kiya howa.

[queen_24]

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@ABC1111

What would you rather have me do? Stalk her? I am not the type of person who would stalk/harass someone just because I have their number or I like someone. I really really like her and that is why I am going through all this trouble.

My point is, if you were too much interested in her, you would have never said “Or I move on”
if you are the one who can let go anything you like/ love so easily then sorry but you are not so strong.. What I want to say is, if you are interested, you can make it out (unless she isn’t engaged or nikahfied). Like, she is not a piece of cloth hanging in a market and, when you know, you can’t afford it, you move on! she should be really important for you, and I think, you should make some ways out to get her instead givingup and moving on!!

Rest, yes I believe, trusting someone these days has become really difficult, one think thousand times before getting into a real serious relationship. It might be a reason, she is reacting cold because even if you have true feelings towards her, she still doesn’t know.. and she is being like this only because she still thinks you as another ordinary boy.. your continuous offers for coffee/ tea is not a good idea.. chichoray boys do two things in the beginning.. 1. can we have tea? or anything related to this question and second, sending Islamic SMS at the initial stage
Dont react stupid.. just be patient.. meet her, talk her, build your own repu, act wise, be wise, don’t everytime go for “study” thing and last… give her some space.. see, next time she will come to you with her studies problem and would want to ask from you!!

[queen_24]

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@STA

compliment her like she is intelligent. sooner or later she will notice you and think about you.

app ko kiya howa.

Seriously ABC, don’t listen to STA
ye bohat hi bewaqoofana mashwaray de rahay hain

[JeevayPakistan]

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I think she's dying for you to take the next step. Haven't you got the signal yet? Besides, girls like men who make 'em laugh. So bring some charisma and cheers in your talks. Don't just say, how much I luv u bla bla bla. Instead talk in a descent respectful manner which makes her giggle ... good luck!

[The_Last_Straw]

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Tickle her

I dare you.

[ABC1111]

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@queen_24

My point is, if you were too much interested in her, you would have never said “Or I move on”
if you are the one who can let go anything you like/ love so easily then sorry but you are not so strong.. What I want to say is, if you are interested, you can make it out (unless she isn’t engaged or nikahfied). Like, she is not a piece of cloth hanging in a market and, when you know, you can’t afford it, you move on! she should be really important for you, and I think, you should make some ways out to get her instead givingup and moving on!!

Rest, yes I believe, trusting someone these days has become really difficult, one think thousand times before getting into a real serious relationship. It might be a reason, she is reacting cold because even if you have true feelings towards her, she still doesn’t know.. and she is being like this only because she still thinks you as another ordinary boy.. your continuous offers for coffee/ tea is not a good idea.. chichoray boys do two things in the beginning.. 1. can we have tea? or anything related to this question and second, sending Islamic SMS at the initial stage
Dont react stupid.. just be patient.. meet her, talk her, build your own repu, act wise, be wise, don’t everytime go for “study” thing and last… give her some space.. see, next time she will come to you with her studies problem and would want to ask from you!!

She isn’t engaged/married. Committed to someone? That I do not know but seems unlikely. There are some details which I cant share here due to privacy reasons but as I said before this last month, all I did was think about her. It affected everything and now when I look back at the last month, I feel that I really wasted my time when I should have taken concrete action. What if she is not even interested? It would mean I wasted my time for nothing. As I said before, I cant share all the details but there is a lot going on in my life at the moment and sometimes I feel I should have been more upfront. In case you are wondering yes I had friends (girls) before, never a relationship and never before have I liked a girl this way before. I am already giving her the space. Havn’t contact her in the last 15 days and Ive never sent her a single un-necessary/forward text, despite severe pressure from friends. Please suggest in clear terms what I should do next?

[The_Last_Straw]

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Tickle her.

I DOUBLE DARES ya!

[Reha]

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Thats the plan but at the moment I have no cards to play except ask her again for study session which honestly seems creepy now.

Ask her for coffee

[tipusulatn]

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I am not sure, but one when a girl who is not your good friend but still willin to entertain you (even for helping you in studies), either she is taking pity on you (not sure how u present yourself to her) or indeed interested in you. Her willingness to come forward to help you itself a signal.

There might be some good reasons for her behaviour, or she may be trying to be extra careful If you are really interested in her then give her as much time she need.

[CEO1]

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I think some people are being harsh on this guy. She does seem to like you to offer help and you sound like a normal decent dude. (It's funny as people on here are dissing/putting you down for being straight up then complain about guys who play/mess around)..Anyway, the best way to break the ice is laughter. I assuming you're not a complete boring pleb... During your studies you should talk about other things...Show interest by trying to get know her.

[The_Last_Straw]

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ABC, try to make her laugh with some gentle teasing. And compliment her. Flattery, when not overdone, can be effective. Ask her open-ended questions that will get her to talk a bit more. It may take some time, but eventually and hopefully she’ll relax toward you. Don’t become a complete chipku either. Back off for a while(not too long though) so it gives her time to think about you and miss you, which can be pretty powerful if you succeed in forming a connection with her to begin with. She may not admit it, but if she liked you, she’ll be happy about reconnecting. And if nothing works…

Tickle her.

[Moodie_Foodie]

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That is exactly what I feel when I think about it rationally. To me it just seems that she is being nice and thats it. But part of me wants to try again and maybe see if there is a chance. Maybe what others said is true and she indeed wants me to be upfront or something. Anyways all this has really taken its toll on me. I plan on making the final move in a couple of days and get it over with.

I say you go for it and then tell us how it went. Good luck!!

[system]

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don call her for some time don try to meet her in uni or any other place see her response on that,
i think her response will determine ur next step either to tell abt ur feeling or move on...

[queen_24]

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She isn't engaged/married. Committed to someone? That I do not know but seems unlikely. There are some details which I cant share here due to privacy reasons but as I said before this last month, all I did was think about her. It affected everything and now when I look back at the last month, I feel that I really wasted my time when I should have taken concrete action. What if she is not even interested? It would mean I wasted my time for nothing. As I said before, I cant share all the details but there is a lot going on in my life at the moment and sometimes I feel I should have been more upfront. In case you are wondering yes I had friends (girls) before, never a relationship and never before have I liked a girl this way before. I am already giving her the space. Havn't contact her in the last 15 days and Ive never sent her a single un-necessary/forward text, despite severe pressure from friends. Please suggest in clear terms what I should do next?

Then seriously, be direct to her, let her know your feelings and ask if she feels the same!! if you can't do it this way, just write her an email!! thats it!

Still, in my opinion, love happens gradually, two never needs to ask and confirm the Love thing.. it gradually occours in your heart and you come to know after you have already crossed miles.. I don't know why can't you "get" what she thinks about you.. do one thing, Uski kisi friend se friendship karo... sab set hojayega! :@: