not necessarily, why do we blame EVERYTHING on the way we’ve been raised? I know plenty of “idiot kids” whose parents did their absolute best in raising them and I know lots of good kids who actually have pretty crazy parents. A lot of kids who go out of control actually do this because they think their parents held them back in some way or had rules that they didn’t agree with.
At some point, we need to take responsibility for our own actions. We reach an age in which we can distinguish between right and wrong; I sure as heck wouldn’t want someone criticizing my every poor life choice as being a result of “bad parenting.”
I agree with you. You cannot blame the parenting completley. It definitely plays a part but after a person becomes an adult, the responsibility rests on their shoulders to get their act together.