I completely understand where ure coming from but its the stupid tradition tht ppl have been practicing for years and no one to put a stop to it i so badly wish all this non sense would stop bc its pointless you dont even see these extented family members for years and they end up getting gifts its really not fair i am so against this stupid gift giving to the extended family and ure right if u fulfill one requirement then there is a possibility of some other request occurring so its like u said its best if u talk to ur fiance and make him understand why u feel the way u do.
ur totally right giving gifts to extended family and who u dnt even see, my mum always sends stuff to ppl we dnt even see, they dnt bother to send any gifts back or to phone to say thank u. so ive told my mum no more gifts unless close family!