Gift ideas for the in-laws

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Nnabid, we tend to see our own personal experiences as the general rule or norm for all people within a particular ethnic group and sometimes for all groups, when that is not necessarily so. And no, this does not mean I support the practice. Just stating a tendency.

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I am Punjabi and it is very common in my family to give and receive gifts on weddings. Remember to give what you can afford and don't go over budget. We are giving my MIL, FIL and SIL some nice unstitched clothes as gifts we decided not to go give to extended family.

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What do these terms mean? FIL, SIL, MIL?

In Punjabis these things create a lot of issues as well. If one relative isn't happy then he/she will have an unsatisfied face till the last day.

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Father in law, sister in law and mother in law.

Its true that people can be displeased but at the end of the day I believe that you should appreciate gifts that another person gives you as its the intention that counts :).

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Thanks for all your responses.

I bought a very nice watch for my fiance. I have also bought unstitched suits for MIL and FIL, and I will probably add something extra (e.g. perfume gift sets, etc). Should these be given on the baraat day? My mum would also like to gift my MIL something gold...

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the watch was given to my hubby at the barat...by my brother. My mom gave the gold set and rings on the barat as well. But the outfits and other gifts were sent over few days before the wedding. My brothers and cousins tooks all the gifts and my own stuff.

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Thanks Rabia

That sounds a lot better. I was thinking of gifting MIL, FIL, BIL and SIL gifts (unstitched suits, etc) on the mehndi day. And gift fiance's watch and MIL gold on the baraat day on stage. What do you think?

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sounds good! the only reason we sent over the outfits before hand was because we were gifting extanded family as well. So the stuff was a suitcase full :(

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hi all

dear bride uk, we gifted my in-laws unstitched dresses ,for ladies as a maxi suit & 4 males for a suit

but we gifted them as we reached their home, but they gifted us two times when they came to our home for nikkah & wedding also, but nikah gifts were simple.

but we don't have custome to give others , others should give gifts to bride & groom, in laws to bride & bride family to groom & rest relative from both sides to bride or both......

bari is given by groom parents to bride & same stuff we give to groom but its before wedding, wedding day gifts r gold or cash

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It is a custom that I have grown up with. Normally it is a watch for groom and FIL and money for groom. Gold and unstitched suits for MIlL and SIL. And unstitched suits for devranis/jethanis or sometimes even gold. Shirts or suits or money for BILs.

We also gave suits n shirts to Khalas, phupos, chachas, chachis, mamoos, mamis. Basically immediate family members of FIL and MIL.

My sister had a small baraat, about 20 n we gave them all something.

I have never been to or heard of a wedding where this is not done. I think the girl would hear tanneh for the rest of her life if her family didn't give anything.

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Seems excessive. I mean girls parents have to give their daughter, Jahez, hold many ceremonies mehndi, mayo, shaadi, dawats after the shaadi and give gifts to MIL,FIL, SIL, MIL....
Not to mention then they hope that the husband treats their daughter right.
It seems very unfair to people who don't have a lot of money for all of this.

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Thank you - I think that sounds reasonable enough to me.

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I agree, it is ridiculous.