Re: Gift Exchanges and Dowry
aghh i hate this whole concept of jahaiz but luckily so did my mil and she strictly said no to jahaiz my parents initially wanted to gift me a bedroom set but my mil and husband went and bought a new bedroom as they were moving into our new house so they set it up for us.
i was very adamant about not taking any jahaiz and so my parents agreed. i didn’t want any gold either (neither from my parents nor his) but i ended up inheriting my grandmothers heirloom necklace, and my moms set and tikka and on the other hand my mil wanted to sell one of her sets and buy me a new one but i said i’d rather take it as is cause that would be an heirloom for my kids one day which i would appreciate much more than any random one she buys me and my mil was very happy with my decision.
however, my parents did gift my in laws a lot of stuff like gold set and suits to my mil and sil and my husbands grandma watches and perfume for husband, bil and fil along with money for all 3 of their clothes. my cousin (she was helping out with wedding as I was the first to get married in my family) was very adamant that we must give all the gifts on the stage and crap but i thought that looks sooooo tacky!!! and i said nooo way thats not happening. and my parents agreed with me so they wrapped everything nicely and took it over to his house before the wedding when they were invited for dinner. i really hate the whole showing off that goes up on the stage.
See I think this really depends…,personally I would really hate to have to live in furniture that others (besides me and my husband) Have picked out, so yeah if my parents were going to buy it i would prefer that over something that my mil was going to get—at least I’d Have a say in the matter.