Salam All!
Suppose there is one gal who likes one guy lol
guy has the same feeling for her…they both live in uk but different cities
Now they are getting to know each other…so they communicate via sms, calls, chat etc
By the way they are relatives of each other but doooooooooooor k
they have only met each other ONCE!
Now this gal has tested him in every best posible way that she can to know wat kind of person he is but one thing that she is stuck on is that she doesn’t know how he reacts when he is angry…and she thinks its very important to know this b4 they move to the next level…
They have become frnds and the guy likesss her very much so even if she says sumthing that wud hurt him he doesn;t say anything
What shud she do to make him angry so that she can know how much control he has over his anger???
I need serious answers guys plzzzzzz
Thanks!
Wow, you're really playing with fire here. Why would you wanna piss someone off to the extent that you may genuinely hurt them only to find out if they pass some sort of test?? I would just continue to talk to this person and when things get to a point where you guys are very comfortable with each other, something will come up in his life that may anger him and you'll know in a more natural way what his reaction will be rather then setting it up.
Wow, you're really playing with fire here. Why would you wanna piss someone off to the extent that you may genuinely hurt them only to find out if they pass some sort of test?? I would just continue to talk to this person and when things get to a point where you guys are very comfortable with each other, something will come up in his life that may anger him and you'll know in a more natural way what his reaction will be rather then setting it up.
What if you get to a point where you can't leave them?
wouldn't it be too late????
Yes Ishi88 that is rude…don’t do that! You’ll probably scare him off !
Why don’t you just ask him straight out if he gets angry often, what things anger him blah blah blah…if he’s truthful, he shouldn’t have any reason to hide the fact that he has trouble controlling his anger (if that really is the case).
What if you get to a point where you can't leave them?
wouldn't it be too late????
Well if he turns out to be a serious rageaholic who can't control his temper (which doesn't seem to be the case at the moment) , it would probably be enough of a turnoff for you to want to leave him.
The problem with constantly testing him now is that he may not say anything now cause he's so into the girl, but these are things that may make him question her personality at some point when the initial euphoria wears off.
Salam All!
Suppose there is one gal who likes one guy lol
guy has the same feeling for her......they both live in uk but different cities :(
Now they are getting to know each other........so they communicate via sms, calls, chat etc
By the way they are relatives of each other but doooooooooooor k
they have only met each other ONCE!
Now this gal has tested him in every best posible way that she can to know wat kind of person he is but one thing that she is stuck on is that she doesn't know how he reacts when he is angry..........and she thinks its very important to know this b4 they move to the next level........
They have become frnds and the guy likesss her very much so even if she says sumthing that wud hurt him he doesn;t say anything
What shud she do to make him angry so that she can know how much control he has over his anger????
I need serious answers guys plzzzzzz
Thanks!
i think the girl is retarded for pissing off a perfectly nice guy there .... the guy already proved his point about how he reacts when he is hurt or pissed off cuz he didn't say anything even whn the grl was being a jerk and said mean things that would hurt him .... i think the grl should grow up and realize that no ones perfect and instead of hurting a poor soul for being too nice to her be thankful to god that she has someone in life who genuinely cares about her enough to not get angry at her ... if the grl does not understand this then i think she should assess herself first before finding faults with the dude
so far the guy has passed the test I think talking to the guy for a while now gives her an idea what kind of guy he is,but somewhere along the way hes bound to get angry for something I hope your friend doesnt take it as a bad sign,after all hes human he gotta slip somewhere.
i think the girl is retarded for pissing off a perfectly nice guy there .... the guy already proved his point about how he reacts when he is hurt or pissed off cuz he didn't say anything even whn the grl was being a jerk and said mean things that would hurt him .... i think the grl should grow up and realize that no ones perfect and instead of hurting a poor soul for being too nice to her be thankful to god that she has someone in life who genuinely cares about her enough to not get angry at her ... if the grl does not understand this then i think she should assess herself first before finding faults with the dude
lol I agree with your response actaully. I mean life cant be planned out and you cant test him out like this. I think its wise to keep it natural and go with the flow.
i mean honestly how would you feel if hte guy is doing that to the grl ... constantly hurting to see how the reaction is or deliberatly try to piss the grl off so he can test the anger response ... like c'monn
Salam All!
Suppose there is one gal who likes one guy lol
guy has the same feeling for her......they both live in uk but different cities :(
Now they are getting to know each other........so they communicate via sms, calls, chat etc
By the way they are relatives of each other but doooooooooooor k
they have only met each other ONCE!
Now this gal has tested him in every best posible way that she can to know wat kind of person he is but one thing that she is stuck on is that she doesn't know how he reacts when he is angry..........and she thinks its very important to know this b4 they move to the next level........
They have become frnds and the guy likesss her very much so even if she says sumthing that wud hurt him he doesn;t say anything
What shud she do to make him angry so that she can know how much control he has over his anger????
I need serious answers guys plzzzzzz
Thanks!
Hi Ishi,
Anger management is an important skill for any relationship and I understand why you're concerned about this. However, there's a problem with the part of your post that I've highlighted above. I think it's kinda like playing with fire, it's a bit risky. And here's why. Most people don't like being tested. It seems underhanded. Let's say that you deliberately say/do something to hurt this guy. And he truly gets hurt. Maybe what you say to him....are words that nobody has ever said to him before. And let's say that he takes it seriously and lashes out at you. Or perhaps he decides to give you the cold shoulder. When you DO end up revealing that you were testing him..........how do you think he'd feel? I doubt he'd be amused sweetheart.
I think it might even be a lose-lose situation. Let's say that he gets extremely angered by you and starts cursing, etc. And he fails your test. Okay, so you decide to drop him then. But let's say that he passes your test....and you tell him that you were only "testing him." That sneakiness of it may upset him. It's better to have direct communication in relationships.....and being sneaky is like playing cames....it goes against the idea of being direct. As a result, he may get so turned off and end things. Or he might try to get you back for it....and that could mess things up as well.
And even if you decide that you'll never let him know that it was a test.........what if you anger him to the point that it changes the relationship?
Why don't you talk to him bout the issue? Ask him how he deals with anger. Ask him what things make him angry (cuz who knows....you may unknowingly do one of those things). Let him know what things bother you about conflicts. For example, you can tell him that you get upset or turned off when people have angry outbursts in public or that you don't like it when people hold long-term grudges. That way, he'll know about your dislikes......and if he likes you.....he'll keep these preferences in mind.
