My friend got married young. Loved his wife most of his life, as they knew each other form childhood.
Things went bad and they were forced to divorce.
My friend was heart broken. I saw him crying. Girl did not take stand and give in to her family.
But she could not stop loving him. So they kept secretly seeing each other.
Now after almost a year, I noticed some thing funny.
My friend is more interested in other girls for serious relationships(while dating Ex-wife)
They wife once he loved has become more like mistresses. I am not sure how do I tell him that.
I know at the end its not gonna go down pretty, as girls consider him nothing less then hubby.
Gher wali is becoming bahir wali now.
Can some one please fix the title for me? I meant “bahir” instead of “bhai”
He is grown up mature man n divorced too... he is not in the phase of listenin others....he knows everythin that he is doin wrong...ask him to use his brain...
*okay but they're both as different stages in their lives, and you don't just get divorced with a snap of a finger, so therefore they BOTH wanted it thats why it happend. *
*So i think they need to take time off eachother AND other relationships, and really fig out what they want for themselves. *
And lets not forget, hes a guys and not married, therefore, he does not have to stick to his ex wive anymore.
I still think you should tell him to stop playing around and give himself sometime.
they need to think about WHY they got divorced. why are the going out now?! if they like each other are they willing to re-marry? will it work out this time? and if your friend doesn't want to re-marry his ex wife at all, then why keep her on the side?
What I think is if we are talking abt muslim couple then we shud more focus on what our religion say then anything else, divorce itself is the most unlike act by Allah and his prophet , an on top of that mistress and dating other girls?????????????????????????????
Both of them needs to grow up and get mature. They are old enuff to take responsibility for their own actions. No one can ever force you to do something you dont want to. You always have a choice, even when the alternatives are not good, its nevertheless still a choice.
If they really dident want to get divorced, than no one could really have forced them to go tru it.They choose to get a divorce instead of fighting for their marriage, If they loved each other so much , than why did they give up on the marriage so easily? Marriage isent a dance on the roses, manye people seems to believe that. A successfull marriage requires lot of hard work, committment, compromising from both sides all the time. If you arent ready for the responsibilty than dont get married in the first place.
Meeting secretly se kuch nahin hoga. They are grown up people, not teengers for Gods sake. So ask your friend to start behaving like a grown up man and use the common sense God gave him.He should get together with his ex wife and have a serious talk with her.
If your friend isent interested in having any serious relationship with his ex wife, than i dont see any point in he meeting his ex wife. He should let her go and move on!!
I am not justifying my friend's action here. Neither I know how far they go in there meeting.
But one thing is for sure that they both did not agree to this divorce decision.
It was imposed on them by mosque. Like a loaded gun some go off accidentally. That sort of divorce.
They took "fatwas" from different masjids, one said its not a divorce other said it is.
So my friend still refer to her as "my wife".
But the point is that girl losing respect in friend's eyes? How come he almost made her into her mistress.
While talking and trying to pursue serious relation.
I agree with most people here, it is messed up situation.
Girl is sort of homely, I don't know when would she realize that and how would she cope.
I don't know what make you call this a "story". May be some one need to spend less time
on computer and more with people.
There are strange stories every where.
I don't know what make you call this a "story". May be some one need to spend less time
on computer and more with people.
There are strange stories every where.
and thankfully, ive not personally encountered any as such
It happens when you're so in love you will do anything for the person you want...including sinking to such depths you would never have imagined.
The girl is desperate to hold onto him in any way and this is the only way now. She is stupid for thinking this will work.
He is even dumber to think his new relationship will be a success while he plays with his exwife at the same time. A bad foundation leads to a bad marriage. Simple.
I realy like this high energy level enviornment, But most the replies(bashing)
is not evern relevent. How did my friend bacame a devil here?
I saw him crying with tears when Mullah said according to blah .. its a
divorce. How ever girl had made it clear before going to masjid that,
that she was not able stop process her family had started, But she would not be willing to
give up the guy.
since girls here are already calling it "story" I don't want to share more details
But truth is reality some time is stranger then stories.
Girls family admited that girl had issues, and they wanted to get professional help.
She had some thing we call acute delusions, or call it possesed.
There was clearly a medicle condition there. My friend just did not wanted to
give up on her wife. We are talking pre divorce time.