My MIL and hubby left my 3 SIL with me for a day or so while they visit some relatives and suddenly she went somewhere. I was so concerned as i was suppose to look after them...i knew and hubby too knew she was having affair.she left without my knowledge ...i tried calling her...bt she didn't receive my call. I told hubby and he told his dad and she was back by than..and thall denied and i was bad 1.
Infact they took revenge on my. I am nt chalak and they played very well. I am nw villian in my family.
Just leave her alone. Let her be and face what she is doing...
Yeah guess I've done what could by warning them and making it clear that I wouldn't be there to share the plight.
Disco/Liberal peoples. Kids AND their parents don't take this bf/gf seriously and are OK with it.
Normal/Respectable/Shareef peoples. Parents can't keep up - kids influenced by society/media etc and have more access and opportunities .i.e. college/university and cell phones.
Previously kids didn't have the opportunity although they wanted to do all of this. Also, it was looked down upon in society - ie if a young couple was seen in public, people would raise eyebrows and create a ruckus. Now people just pass by with a meh.
If you need further explanation of wat is happening in paksitan. PM me.
being horny even does not justify it (though it reminds me of something )
but i think whole of the muslim community whether living in pakistan or outside have developed this notion that by developing short cuts or some other ways they may get more or a better opportunity or a better person .
certain categories i have seen have also in mind that they can find better partners like wise .
but Hareem worrying too much is not even fruitful
it is a good topic .
somethings are meant to be they way they are .
not everyone in this world is the perfect . also people learn through mistakes
Don't you think late marriages are contributing to all this? Kids should be married as early as possible but then again we see couples having an affair. I think people have become so immoral lately & upbringing plays an important role in all this.
Disco/Liberal peoples. Kids AND their parents don't take this bf/gf seriously and are OK with it.
Normal/Respectable/Shareef peoples. Parents can't keep up - kids influenced by society/media etc and have more access and opportunities .i.e. college/university and cell phones.
Previously kids didn't have the opportunity although they wanted to do all of this. Also, it was looked down upon in society - ie if a young couple was seen in public, people would raise eyebrows and create a ruckus. Now people just pass by with a meh.
If you need further explanation of wat is happening in paksitan. PM me.
it takes at least a decade after finishing high school to become financially stable. And things are getting worse with days .. student loans etc. keeps piling up and millennials can't even afford homes let alone have a family. Sometimes, bf/gf things seems way more tempting for various reasons other than sexxxx
Someone I know who knows my inlaws told them that "Pakistan kay halaat buhat kharab hain" etc etc...and girls have multiple boyfriends. It sounds like an exaggeration but recently I've heard so many such incidents that I have started to believe her.
And I see this behaviour is prevalent among the working class as oppose to very rich or very poor. Girls would usually make friends with boys to get money and gifts out of them. And sad part is...parents are okay with it.
What if you witness something similar in your own family...how would you react? Would you try to stop it? How?
Hareem: there are different social classes prevalent in Pakistan,all having different value systems. people who are elite, educated,liberal in their thinking and they don't really mind their kids having relationships. Now here by relationships i don't mean they are crossing all boundaries and are okay with sexting,physical sex etc. there might be few who are okay with that too, but majority out of this group too approves only of a relationship within boundaries.my few cousins had love marriages/engagements and while the couple was seeing each other, it was approved by the families.
the another group is of people belonging to conservative/religious families where this concept of bf/gf/relationships(even within boundaries) are not acceptable.
there is another group belonging to lower socio-economic class, mostly girls are not very educated, working in salons,boutiques, restaurants etc and it is mostly these girls who have multiple bfs and the sole purpose it to have some fun and get some monetary benefits out of the relationships. they guys they are having affairs with are also not serious with them and are into it just for fun. Both parties know this fact and both take advantage of each other. boys by asking for physical contact and girls by asking for gifts,phone credits,money etc in return. Most guys they are having affairs with belong to the rich or well off families and they go for these girls because they are an easy catch for them as compare to the girls in their own social circle.
Too true. Just like every other nation, Pakistan is home to a diversity of value systems. The predominant class are the conservatives. If you're trying to fish out instances of the Gf/Bf culture, start off with colleges/universities (Co-ed, of course). This is where guys and girls have genuine exposure and interaction with each other. I would say its a breeding ground for said culture.
I have seen people having affairs not specific to a social class. But there are also still very respectable people. Just like any other place. I still think girls having affairs are not in majority because it is so strongly looked down upon.
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