And I see this behaviour is prevalent among the working class as oppose to very rich or very poor. Girls would usually make friends with boys to get money and gifts out of them. And sad part is...parents are okay with it.
The reason why some parents might be ok with it is that arranged marriage has been made very difficult in Pakistan. Larka walas have a huge list of demands. Not only do they want a fair, tall, slim girl, but they also want a big dowry. On the other hand, if its a love marriage, a guy wont leave a girl just because her parents cant afford a lavish wedding and a big dowry.
i know all the posh school there celebrate valentines day. Writing with marker on everyones clothes, bringing red balloons. I was like wtf? This doesn't even happen here
Well I have to agree with you as I myself have heard so many stories last time I went to Pakistan. This is what people do in Pakistan I think with 1 million sims they own.
^but now it has become acceptable. And what about befriending boys to get money and gifts and phone credit? They have turned relationships into damn business.
True. Not only in bf gf relationships but in husband wife relationship too. There is this guy who married this divorced lady with kid out of sympathy a while ago but after few months she ran away with all the gold jewellery she has which in laws gifted her. When guy came to know her stunt he divorced her immediately & guess what then he had to pay the "haq mehar" too which was again massive. All her family was part of this. After all this drama they came to know that she did this same stunt with her ex too. They should have investigated about her beforehand.
i know all the posh school there celebrate valentines day. Writing with marker on everyones clothes, bringing red balloons. I was like wtf? This doesn't even happen here
I find this marker thing disgusting too. Happened in my school too (not on valentines day though). Like really whats the point.
Was it just a coincidence that my school kept the bakes sale on 14th feb? And were the red balloons a coincidence too? Who knows.
Someone I know who knows my inlaws told them that "Pakistan kay halaat buhat kharab hain" etc etc...and girls have multiple boyfriends. It sounds like an exaggeration but recently I've heard so many such incidents that I have started to believe her.
And I see this behaviour is prevalent among the working class as oppose to very rich or very poor. Girls would usually make friends with boys to get money and gifts out of them. And sad part is...parents are okay with it.
What if you witness something similar in your own family...how would you react? Would you try to stop it? How?
in my own family most of my cousins have or had bfs but only one got to marry her bf after years and that too as he was distance relative, handsome and rich. most of my cousins parents will deny that their daughters have bf even all is open.
this is how it is in pak.
why should i stop...i mean i can not stop. if parents dont notice 10 000 of mobile bills, or why their daughters are up whole night or where do they go....what can i do.
people are less practing in pakistan.
In a conservative society, your first contact with a person from opposite gender is considered to be your BF/GF.
That was the case in late 90s early 2000s... nowadays, people are more open-minded, which is nice in that u don't get labeled gf/bf or slut/easy etc simply for talking to someone of the opposite gender. But on the other hand couples/relationships between teens are quite easy to spot.. whether in the US or Pakistan, which is not so good.
Who cares? I mean unless you plan on living in Pak or are raising your kids there...why care or try to police girls in Pakistan? Jaise bahir ke mulkon mein sirf farishtay rehte hein.
Gf and Bf culture is not new nor is it only in Pakistan...this is old news and its everywhere. Is it more acceptable? I don't know...people are certainly becoming more open about it.
And before we predict or judge anyone else...let's not forget our own kids? We have no idea what route they will choose and I don't know a single kid that hasn't surprised their parents yet.
Who cares? I mean unless you plan on living in Pak or are raising your kids there...why care or try to police girls in Pakistan? Jaise bahir ke mulkon mein sirf farishtay rehte hein.
Gf and Bf culture is not new nor is it only in Pakistan...this is old news and its everywhere. Is it more acceptable? I don't know...people are certainly becoming more open about it.
And before we predict or judge anyone else...let's not forget our own kids? We have no idea what route they will choose and I don't know a single kid that hasn't surprised their parents yet.
Are you blind auntie? It does involve my close family member that's why I'm concerned. I don't need your stupid advice...give it to yourself.
in my own family most of my cousins have or had bfs but only one got to marry her bf after years and that too as he was distance relative, handsome and rich. most of my cousins parents will deny that their daughters have bf even all is open.
this is how it is in pak.
why should i stop...i mean i can not stop. if parents dont notice 10 000 of mobile bills, or why their daughters are up whole night or where do they go....what can i do.
people are less practing in pakistan.
Yeah but still you would try to warn them somehow? Specially if they're very close to you...as far as I know these boys don't marry the girls they're toying with and that's what worries me the most. Because if the girl has been going out with a boy and everyone knows about it then there's gonna be less chance of her getting married to someone else..isn't it?
The culture of how a male interacts with a female or the other way may have changed but the part about "no one wants a used girl" hasn't.
Anyway...I did try to warn them...and what did I get in the end? Lies...and more lies. If it was allowed in Islam I would've cut all the ties with them. I just can't stand liars.
I did try Hareem but offcourse wont listen. Noon cares if they will find future husband. They live in present.
Yeah...the girl in question isn't a teen anymore...she's turning 24 this month. And then there's family repute to worry about as well. It's something which is not seen as something respectable in our family....we're not one of those posh burger families you know. Also, she's under my financial guardianship so i don't know if I should feel responsible for her....but I definitely do worry for her wellbeing as she's related to me. And sometimes I do wish I woukd stop worrying over her....she has lied to me over and over.
My MIL and hubby left my 3 SIL with me for a day or so while they visit some relatives and suddenly she went somewhere. I was so concerned as i was suppose to look after them...i knew and hubby too knew she was having affair.she left without my knowledge ...i tried calling her...bt she didn't receive my call. I told hubby and he told his dad and she was back by than..and thall denied and i was bad 1.
Infact they took revenge on my. I am nt chalak and they played very well. I am nw villian in my family.
Just leave her alone. Let her be and face what she is doing...
yes girls are sensitive and they are not always sure of the right ways. in my opinion they need a lot of counselling .
where as boys try to fool around as much as they can.
This girl and her friends I'm talking about come from respectable families...not rich, but respectable and what do you call in Pakistan "shareef". They aren't teens so they're not in their sensitive mode...by now they should know right from wrong and should be held fully responsible for their actions. Heck...even teens would try to dodge and get free from their parents' set of rules and values and hug the trends of a society.
For all I know, girls are more rebellious than boys and hence harder to tame. In fact, the more you try to tame them the more they'll rebel.
