Getting your periods

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Exactly.

But you know what they say… common sense isn’t so common :halo:

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Sara- I don't think they're "forced", because that would mean, the parents know she is on her period, but still force her to fast and pray. I mean you're clearly breaking Islamic laws.

But its more about shame, and the daughter doesn't feel comfortable talking about it, so she just fasts and prays.

But I could be wrong, there are way too many jahils in this world.

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I was thinking about that too. What did she herself do about it? This is incredible. And beyond her shock, she telling her DIL that she is dirty/impure is just crazy.

Perhaps they have a don't ask, don't tell policy where they pretend that such a thing doesn't exist at all.

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yeah My MIL is a little backwards in tradition she believes that what she says is the ultimate truth. We go to Pakistan yearly for Eid and spend a month or 2 there and during that month if i am on my period she kept saying to me tonight you sleep downstairs don't go to your husband its sinful for a woman to sleep in the same bed as a man at that time. Or if I am on my period and its time for namaz and everyone is sat in the same room she will loudly say "Aisha go upstairs and pray." Not just periods but when I was having my first daughter before i was due she called daily and would say "Don't scream during the labour." "Don't cry." "Don't tell your husband if you start contractions keep them to yourself." Lol i was like hello he is the one who is going to take me to the hospital so how can he not know.

She is very touch about the subject of periods I cannot use the same bathroom as my husband at that time cos its dirty and she even goes as far as to say that during that time I am not allowed to make roti/salaan. I tell her many times my hubby is not a child he is a grown man he knows when the time is and what pads i use etc to which she was shocked and said that I was besharam and she then got my SIL to talk to me about why periods must stay secret

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^:smack: Thats not being backward or conservative, thats jahaalat.

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:smack:

:hayaa:

:smack:

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^The two best parts in your post.

So friggin uproariously AWESOME! LOL!!!

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momof2angles…:hayaa:

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The only other place i have seen what momof2angels is describing is on a tv show about african tribes who still live off the land and like live in dung huts...im shocked.

Ive never ever been forced to pray or fast, my dad just says whoever needs to pray pray and if someone else asks my mum just says oh shes keeping roza without sehri...

no biggie!

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LOL @ momof2angels! Your MIL is a very funny women! How she's gone through life without telling her husband about when she's on periods or when she was giving birth i don't know!

As far as it is in our family, people don't ask why so and so isn't fasting/praying. We just get by the 'not feeling well' routine. But our family isn't like normal families so maybe my personal experience doesn't count. I think people should just worry about their own fasting/praying and let the mum's worry about the daughters!

Most men know anyway so shouldn't ask!

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I once heard from a scholar that if you accidentally break your fast (like in case of vomiting) you should still go through the day without eating if you can, so others wont know that you dont have rozaa. This is true for both guys and ladies. Not fasting because of period comes pretty much under that logic so is it really a big deal if it is suggested to pretend that you are fasting?

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they gotta pretend caz of the **Haya* culture in our society. its ain't some religious things that make them pretend.

religiously it is clearly mentioned that they should not fast in their particular days - and i belive ever "muslim" should know this. the problem is our culture where the "haya" factor is such a big deal that it sucks up the normal life..

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I'm not sure about the vomiting thing..... I think if a person gets sick they are also allowed to skip the fast.

On days I don't fast, ill try my best to not eat in front of anyone....but if I'm alone, in a public place, I have no problems if I have to. Only time I won't is if I'm with someone who is fasting (including my husband), only out fo respect for them.....but is that pretending?

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If your intention is to refrain from eating in front of a fasting person out of respect.......that's courtesy...it's not pretending as you don't have the intention to literally practice fasting.

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Ok by pretending I meant out of respect

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Sara - it may be out of respect/courtesy that you don't eat in front of them when your not fasting. If you know your not fasting, then your not pretending to either i dont think. It's all about the intention as redvelvet said!

Also when someone vomits, their fast is broken so they can eat and not fast, i haven't really heard about the 'pretending' to fast thing?

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makes sense to me.

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its said to keep fasting not so that others wont know, its because your roza is still acceptable when you break it accidently...thats not the case with period when youre not fasting anyway.

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i got a funny story about this too.. My lil bro was 6 when he started praying and fasting, and one morning he asked why me and my sister didn't get up, so my mum said we have 'lady problems' he was like, oh okay.

anyways.. we were at the local masjid for iftar on the weekend after that, and some men didn't get up to pray at Maghrib time, so he went up to a group of them and said "do you also have lady problems? " My god! we were rolling with laughter!

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^ haha thats adorable!