My Nikkah was about 3 weeks ago and a few things didn’t go as were planned.. and while looking at pics today, I got sad over the small things that I wish had been done differently or how some things weren’t done how I wanted.
For those who are married, were there any blunders at your wedding that happened? How did you get over it?
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Mannnnyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy blunders happened on our wedding. They happen for everyone I guess. Hey you are married now, focus on the marriage not the wedding. Little things don’t make a difference over a period of time. Enjoy your marriage. 
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u whine about it for a year or so til u just get over it... :D
there's really nothing else u can do, u can't go back and change it..
so share ur horror story :@:
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i love my hubs--- screw the wedding -
and trust me my wedding was before everything avaliable here.. so there blunders the size of k2
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I'm getting married in Jan '09. I live in the US and am going to lahore for the wedding. Anyone who knows me describes me as a perfectionist. So for me, things need to be EXACTLY as I have planned or I get pissed off..
Here's the deal...
Good thing is, it was your nikkah, so you still have the rukhsati to look forward to. But sweetheart, the # 1 thing people forget is the bottom line about weddings. I know with the craziness of a wedding, its easy to lose sight of what's most important.
Remember how you felt when you sat next to the man you are going to spend the rest of you life with rather than how a flower was out of place in the backdrop.
Remember how he first looked at you when you walked up to him...You know his heart skipped a beat as did yours.
Remember how you were nervous or even shaking when you realized you were getting married to him.
Remember than nothing can replace the feelings of happiness or excitement of being a bride.
You have started the most beautiful chapter of your life.... don't lose sight of that. Get over the minor things that didn't go perfectly, instead, day dream about the intimate glances, the soft touches and the fact that Allah has blessed you and your family. You were surrounded by people who love you and those who are beginning to love you.
Smile when you think of all the little girls are the wedding that scurried to the stage when they realized the "dulhan" is coming in!! Giggle at the thought of how you inspired these little angels to grow up and want to become brides as gorgeous as you.
so my lovely, relax, take a deep breath and cherish everything you've been blessed with and trust me, you will not get time to frown on the things that were missing.
Now just for 10 seconds, close your eyes and think of how beautiful you and your man will make your future..
I promise you, you will be smiling...:)
peace.
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im not married yet.. but im prepared for the blunders.. lol.. i guess it happens with everyone.. even if everything is 99% perfect, you just cry over that 1% which was not perfect.. its natural and happens with everyone..
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Things were very hectic and busy when I got married, and afterwards when I looked back I did have a few moments of thinking that it would have been better if this or that, but then I realized that you know what, whats done is done and the wedding is over, so there is no point for me to worry over that anymore. What I have now is my marriage so its better for me to put my thoughts and efforts into making my marriage amazing instead of worrying over how I should have made my wedding day more amazing. I guess the only thing that can come out of it is some things to keep in mind for your siblings wedding, to learn from the mistakes you made, or even for your own rukhsati and walima. But as for what has already passed, dont sweat the small stuff! Just enjoy your beautiful marriage now and may Allah always keep you and your husband happy together, Ameen
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The biggest 'mishap' at our wedding was that my husband's parents were not there. I don't think anything else matters.
The biggest 'mishap' at our wedding was that my husband's parents were not there. I don't think anything else matters.
Ohh.. sh*t.
Yeah... I saw ur post in my thread..
damn... they didn't like you? :(
Dont sweat it babe, you;re cool!:p
Post pix of ur wedding! I wanna see! :p
I'm getting married in Jan '09. I live in the US and am going to lahore for the wedding. Anyone who knows me describes me as a perfectionist. So for me, things need to be EXACTLY as I have planned or I get pissed off.. Here's the deal... Good thing is, it was your nikkah, so you still have the rukhsati to look forward to. But sweetheart, the # 1 thing people forget is the bottom line about weddings. I know with the craziness of a wedding, its easy to lose sight of what's most important. Remember how you felt when you sat next to the man you are going to spend the rest of you life with rather than how a flower was out of place in the backdrop. Remember how he first looked at you when you walked up to him...You know his heart skipped a beat as did yours. Remember how you were nervous or even shaking when you realized you were getting married to him. Remember than nothing can replace the feelings of happiness or excitement of being a bride. You have started the most beautiful chapter of your life.... don't lose sight of that. Get over the minor things that didn't go perfectly, instead, day dream about the intimate glances, the soft touches and the fact that Allah has blessed you and your family. You were surrounded by people who love you and those who are beginning to love you. Smile when you think of all the little girls are the wedding that scurried to the stage when they realized the "dulhan" is coming in!! Giggle at the thought of how you inspired these little angels to grow up and want to become brides as gorgeous as you. so my lovely, relax, take a deep breath and cherish everything you've been blessed with and trust me, you will not get time to frown on the things that were missing. Now just for 10 seconds, close your eyes and think of how beautiful you and your man will make your future.. I promise you, you will be smiling...:) peace.
very nicely put..good way to look at it
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^^
:)
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awww, shem, don't worry about it hon! theres nothing you can do now so dont waste your time feeling sad. instead focus on the positives and the things that did go right- you looked gorgeous, you're married to the love of your life, his mother isn't crazy, and most importantly, both of you have your health and each other. it will make you sad from time to time, but try and let go of that feeling. i refuse to acknowledge any mishaps from my wedding and there were a couple of things here and there and i just resolutely focus on the positives- otherwise, i would be really upset and want a do-over and my husband would probably leave me at that point lol :P
I'm getting married in Jan '09. I live in the US and am going to lahore for the wedding. Anyone who knows me describes me as a perfectionist. So for me, things need to be EXACTLY as I have planned or I get pissed off.. Here's the deal... Good thing is, it was your nikkah, so you still have the rukhsati to look forward to. But sweetheart, the # 1 thing people forget is the bottom line about weddings. I know with the craziness of a wedding, its easy to lose sight of what's most important. Remember how you felt when you sat next to the man you are going to spend the rest of you life with rather than how a flower was out of place in the backdrop. Remember how he first looked at you when you walked up to him...You know his heart skipped a beat as did yours. Remember how you were nervous or even shaking when you realized you were getting married to him. Remember than nothing can replace the feelings of happiness or excitement of being a bride. You have started the most beautiful chapter of your life.... don't lose sight of that. Get over the minor things that didn't go perfectly, instead, day dream about the intimate glances, the soft touches and the fact that Allah has blessed you and your family. You were surrounded by people who love you and those who are beginning to love you. Smile when you think of all the little girls are the wedding that scurried to the stage when they realized the "dulhan" is coming in!! Giggle at the thought of how you inspired these little angels to grow up and want to become brides as gorgeous as you. so my lovely, relax, take a deep breath and cherish everything you've been blessed with and trust me, you will not get time to frown on the things that were missing. Now just for 10 seconds, close your eyes and think of how beautiful you and your man will make your future.. I promise you, you will be smiling...:) peace.
awwww that is so well put!!!
i wannna get married now!!!!
gone to my lala land!!
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^^ :)
I'm keep reminding myself of these things so when I get married in Jan '09, I wont have any regrets:)
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^ lol i was just gonna say... remember all of that on your day, cos you sound like me- perfectionist and a little bit anal about the details. what i learned was its not the end of the world if everything doesn't line up according to plan, although yes it* is *annoying, but you can either stress about it or let it go. i think so long as your parents, the groom and maulvi show up- all is well! ;)
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Even 3.5 years later, I'm reminded of some small things that happened and it bothers me. But I remember all the things that went well and all of the wonderful things in our marriage. I also try to remember all i was grateful for in our wedding and marriage -- It's not something I ever want to take for granted.
Weddings usually involve a lot of people during times of high emotion. No matter how well you plan, some things won't happen as you planned. And you need to be okay with that, otherwise you'll let that ruin your big day.
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shay! first of all congrats!! and secondly...share some tips....and advice for the day....bc I am freaking out toooooooooo... :)
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yeah congrats! and i'm hoping we'll see pics soon? :D
shay! first of all congrats!! and secondly...share some tips....and advice for the day....bc I am freaking out toooooooooo... :)
I thought you WERE already married? I'm sure I saw a clip of your wedding on youtube?! I'm confused! x