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Oh yah count ur blessings ure not marrying into a family that buys into the whole non-Pashtos, non-family members not being worth marrying, else you'd be facing that crap for your own kids yrs down the line..
Re: getting over lost love
only dirty minds can think like that
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you're a doc? I know we all become blind and stupid when it comes to "love" but I'd expect a doc to think a bit more logically. I dont know how you can blame him when he had made it clear to you that his family isnt into marrying non-pashtoons. Also, he never proposed to you. When you're in love, you cant help but hope that you'll end up together some day, but you were with him for 5 years. A logical thought about this relationship should've entered your mind for atleast a teensy weensy second in all those years, but apparently not.
The only mistake i suppose i can see here is that he should've at least told you that he was getting engaged. If not for the sake of the love you both have for each other but at least for the sake of the friendship you guys shared.
Please dont think that I am being rude. I hate men who lie with all my heart but in this case you have to share some of the blame.
btw, time heals all. Give it a year.
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Yes, i wasn't just blaming him I do admit I am to blame as well. He did not mention marriage, and I was so emotionally involved with him that I couldn't see where it was heading. Inside I knew that we wouldn't get married because of the race issue. I am in no way 'blaming' pashtoons, i have a positive view of them anyway because this guy wasn't bad. It was unfortunate that this was the way his family worked. I also know many pashtoon families who don't think like that. I apologise if i offended anyone here, I was just expressing my views.
It is a lesson learnt, and yes I used to blame him but I have to take responsibility for my actions, no1 forced me to love him it was my own doing.
As for me being a DR, I think us Dr's are still human enough to love. My profession has nothing to do with my emotions outside work, at work i will concentrate on helping people and saving lives, mashallah I am not that selfish to take my personal life and let it harm others.
Thanks for helping me realise what I did wrong as well people, as I take all critism as constructive :)
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I am not sure what you meant by that.. so I just guessed it.. sorry
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Everyone knows their family better, u know how ur fam is very strict n he knows what he can or cant make his fam to do.
I think he loved u but never raised the marriage issue coz he knew it wouldnt happen even if he tried, it would only result in more troubles.So he kept on seeing u as he wanted to be with u so he was selfish so were u becoz in ur mind somewhere u also knew that this marriage wont happen but u still kept on seeing him.
so sweatheart u r both at fault n u cant do anything bout that. so in this conditon try to forget him. It must not have ben easier for him also but he is thinking that he would manage without u n he will but it would take time n it would also take some time for u to forget all this but u will inshallah n u r young n there are so many good n cute guys out there so i think its time to check them out 
And yes, there is 99 % chance that he would contact u sometime after his marriage so be prepared for it, never talk to him then.And if he doesnt call u then he is the real man.
Plus these things happen to everyone somewhere in their life once or twice or… n these things make u more mature n wise.
best of luck n luv
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So I guess you got over hte dude pretty quickly huh
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^^
Would it kill you to put those claws back in, Sara? 
Why the need for this cattiness? Miaaoowww!!! :peshow:
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are you feeling jeolous cause he is getting married?or because you really desired him?..cause you never popped the question about marriage yourself.I have noticed with some girls that they snub you or ignore you but when they find out that you might be getting attention from some woman or may be hooked up with someone they start to feel really jeolous and come after you.
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I think Destinee is right but it is possible dat d guy had sum kind of majboori - sumtimes u really love sumone but cant even tell them openly wat d problem is bcos it culd b sumthng which may be more difficult to deal wid and maybe he didnt want to put u throo dat - on d other hand he culd b jus a coward who didnt have d courage to talk to u.
Anyway, dont let it get to u - just take sum tym out, go shopping, explore the Deira city centre (like sumone suggested), eat lots of choccies, watch soppy movies, and shop, shop, shop!!! Just chill, u'll feel better within a week...
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What cattiness? me catty? Noooooo :halo:
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im so sorry for you cm, i was thinking and this is wat i came up with, he was with you so he can have ur body"pleasures" thats y he kept saying i love you, and when u left to paki is got sick of it and deciced to leave you
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i blame you coz you knowning, that your from a religious family and considering other facts that hes a pathaan, you should have known better that it wont work, how many times has it worked you tell me, especially if the gurls from a religious family and then the cast is different.
knowing that your religious family would not appriciate it and you as a from a religious family should have explained to him that it wasnt right what you two were doing, and you knowing that it was wrong to be in relationship with a guy for 5 years, and as it was all a secret even your friends didnt know about it, clearly shows that the whole episode of five years was a lie and dammmmmm wrong.
so more blame falls on you.
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this is a rather late reply for chunni munni but can i throw in a good comment.. hey munni listen to the song "waqt" by EP and understand the lyrics.. might help you to understand what you are in.. and if you are angst-ridden try "irtiqa3" >> by the way if u r from a good religious family nevermind that stuff..