I was actually in the same issue. Not as much, it was 4k instead of 10K. I got the money back after I basically cursed him out. Honestly I regret it as I feel like it was really bad for my marriage, I should have just forgot about 4K and just not give him money anymore. Now he is really mean and treats me bad because he gave me the money back.
Anyway, if he is a ok guy, meaning he has a good job, he isnt that bad, AND you are think ur going to regret being divorced, I suggest do the following.
- dont tell him about you trying to get divorced, and dont send him any money any more.
- Tell him that if you don’t get your money back, you will have to start seriously thinking if this marriage should continue. Tell him you really lost faith in him, and that a marrage is based on trust, unfortunately this is causing you to not trust him. Tell him its not about the money, its about the principle, trust.
- Ask him for like $500 a month, or $100, whatever YOU think he can afford to give you. Tell him that if he can give atleast $100 or $500 a month back, then maybe it will help him gain your trust again. Remember, its $10,000, in the US thats alot, in Pakistan that a huge amount.
Look its really upto him to give it back to you, dont tell his sister or mom, they are his family and will never be on your side.He probably bought something for them anyway. Ask a lawyer, but unless u actually go to Pakistan to fight for it, ur never going to get it back. Just move on and think its Sadqa
