okayy, so hypothetically if a girl was 18 years of age and her parents were fully in support of her getting an education and all but also wanted her to get married, what would you do? bear in mind that this girl has completed her a-levels, wil get married during holidays and then start university after???
I personally don’t think its a bad thing when people get married young, its just when they end up not going to work or continue getting their education that i find a little wrong.
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18 is a child, 18 year olds can't keep their room clean never mind getting married
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18 is a child, 18 year olds can't keep their room clean never mind getting married
Okayyyy...but what if shes kinda mature and more grown up than the average few???
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Maturity mostly comes from age. 18 is a kid, someone who hasn't even experienced what life is.
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I would want to know why the 18 year old (or her parents) feel the need to get married at 18? Why can't she wait until she at least finishes her bachelors?
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Depends why you want to get married? And more importantly who you're marrying.
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lf people involved are fine with it then no harm... just do it
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Depends on who it is. Some 18 year olds are the maturest people I have ever seen whilst others are so immature that marriage and their name would not go together very well
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I think it's totally fine. I got married at 20. I think it's more than okay to be married young, as long as you're willing to take the responsibility for it. Age has some, but not full control over maturity.
I know many people in their late twenties who deserve Binky Pacifiers as their next birthday present.
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if financially supporting themselves is a mom-issue then even 16 year old boys and girls can get married. boys and girls are living in common law relationships and/or engaging in illegitimate relationship resulting in illegitimate kids being born out of wedlock to these young parents. it was a norm in our culture a quarter of a century ago. Islam does allow such marriages to take place so what seems to be the problem.
i say if you can afford to get married, the earlier the better...if education is important for you and it should be then you should wait until you achieve your goal academically.
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if the girl has no issues and is comfortable marrying then yes it is fine.
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18 is a child, 18 year olds can't keep their room clean never mind getting married
what is the co-relation between the room tidiness and marriage??
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Best of luck for the girl :)
Although it will be a tough ask to carry both things in parallel ( Study and Married Life )
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can 19 y.o. be mothers...
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what is the co-relation between the room tidiness and marriage??
i think the notion here is, if she cant keep her room clean then she can keep her (and husband's) new room clean either and in-laws will complain
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It was meant to highlight the absurdity of an 18 year old marrying in todays world and someone who can’t take care of themselves can’t be expected to run a house. Pretty obvious yet you missed the entire point.
In old days sure, my Mom married that young and ran a house or help run it but I doubt anyone can pull that off now. That was a different time, not better by any means but very different from todays world. Or do you need me to show you correlation here too to make my point? 
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Women in past generations married early because they usually weren't expected or didn't want to study and work outside the home.. Of course there were exceptions but the majority were like that..
Teenagers do get pregnant here before marriage but on the whole what sort of life do these girls who have babies or marry in their teens have?
Do the majority complete their education? Seems to me they don't.. and for every Pakistani girl who was able to finish uni and work after marriage at such a young age I could probably point to ten who couldn't..
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My friend had her nikah the day she turned 18. (Legally allowed to get married at age 18 here) . Rukhsakti less than 6 mth later. Her mom told me that a "good" rishta came so no reason to say no. My friend hadn't even started with her A levels. Had just done O levels. But mA she is happy now and with a kid. I guess depends from person to person. To my friend's mom, a good rishta was a pakistani guy settled in the US and 11 yr older than her. To some people, this would be a no no. I'm ok with early marriage but believe that the girl should at least be done with A levels or be in Uni
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i got your point. i somehow find this view very superficial. i mean a girl is considered fit to get married if she is able to run the house? for me it is if she is capable of managing her relationship, can deal with the complexities of the relationship, is well aware of her emotional needs and able to comprehend and respond to the emotional needs of the man, she is all good to go ahead and get married.
a house on the other hand, can be and should be run by all the people living in the house and and it shouldn’t be expected that a girl runs it all by herself whether she is 18 or 30.
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i got your point. i somehow find this view very superficial. i mean a girl is considered fit to get married if she is able to run the house? for me it is if she is capable of managing her relationship, can deal with the complexities of the relationship, is well aware of her emotional needs and able to comprehend and respond to the emotional needs of the man, she is all good to go ahead and get married.
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So a man's emotional needs have nothing to do with managing household responsibilities? I see both things as being connected. Having an organized and secure home environment is among everyone's emotional needs. When the home environment is a mess, the anxiety/frustration will be reflected in interactions. A girl who is mature enough to understand a guy's emotional needs will also understand that a well-managed home is among those needs. Both things go hand in hand; it's not one or the other. I don't think it's superficial; on the contrary the skill(s) are essential. You need both traits (emotional understanding and domestic skills) and I feel they both develop over time.