And by young i mean between 18 and 24. Anything younger should be a crime really. Those are the prime ages when people are in college or starting to work. Anybody explain why they actually wanna get married between those ages? You have just finished highschool or college and you are up and married.
I don’t understand the logical need or requirement to get married so young. So those who are married or wish to get married by that age explain to me the logic of such actions. “Because my parents want me to” is not a valid reason.
So when do you think the right age is? The first sign of grey hair or the emergence of a bald patch? My opinion is age shouldn't even be an issue. For men, if you financially independent and mature enough to handle responsibilities, and want to get married, then go for it. No point in twiddling your thumbs waiting for a specific birthday to come around.
I don’t give a damn about age really. If you are getting grey hair before 35 - 40 go see your doctor. I just want to see the reason why people get married right out of college when they don’t the mental maturity to handle themselves let alone a household and family. Marriage in our society is defined by age, and i get picked on
Regardless explain to me the logic of getting married young.
Well if age doesn't matter then to each his own...why you so stirred up about people getting married young, I mean if it's what they want then why not..."growing up" with your partner isn't such a bad thing!
because younger ppl can compromise on lots of things than the adults and also at young age you have just started developing some habits that are not part of your personality so its easy to get rid of them if that is causing trouble in a relationship but later in life you are so accoustomed to those habits and things that compromising seems hard.
I am married at the age of 20 and my husband is 25, n i guess it was the best decision ever because now both of us can understand eachother well n compromise on plenty of things that are still not part of our personalities but under construction. :-)
Also, "growing up together" is much more fun than anything else!
Are you implying that at 35-40 something magical happens and suddenly you’re all mature enough to raise a family. I’ve seen teenagers more mature than some 40 year old uncles. Age is just a number. But you are right, it is pretty pathetic to be dependent on your parents (financially and emotionally) and then choose to get married.
Marrying young means you will probably be in your 40s when your kids will be heading out to college, while in 50s you will be a grand father. So, plenty of time to play with the grand children. Also, those who marry young can have a lot more kids than those who marry say at 35, unless off course they marry someone half their age.
I think what is more worrying then the age we are marrying at, is the amount of time and energy being spent by young people today worrying about getting married. Everything happens in its own time, so go out live life, become the person you want to be....do whatever you want in life....just stop with the incessant worrying about marriage...
On a side note, I believe the sure fire way to know that a guy is ready to get married is when he starts to buy electronical gadgets...thats when u know the boy needs to get married!!!
I just want to see the reason why people get married right out of college when they don't the mental maturity to handle themselves let alone a household and family. Marriage in our society is defined by age, and i get picked on
Hold your horses. What makes you think people who are coming out of college aren't mature enough to handle themselves?
Plenty are.
Secondly, one thing you might want to take into account is that if you yourself are in this age range, you're probably in disbelief that right now your age is ripe for mating and reproduction (sanctified by marriage in most of our cases, hopefully). I know that my girls and I are still in disbelief every time we hear a friend of ours getting married, and we TEND to think "oh how young"...but in reality, we're just not used to the fact that this is a totally acceptable and OKAY thing to do at this age.
Now 18-24 is a big age gap. I'm more comfortable when I hear of people going for the kill around 23, 24, 25 and onwards. 18 is right when you're starting college, and since college is such a learning experience, I feel like people might be missing out on getting married during college. But right after college is over, and if you dont have any more professional educational plans, then why not?
LK, i have no issue with them getting married young. Personal opinion that it is stupid, but hey to each his own. However i feel that people in our society lack the emotional maturity to handle a marriage at such a young age. I mean they just left high school or college. I remember what i was like then. I was a bloody retard. Now you are supposed to get married? I mean what the ****?
Code Red but its ok for women? Plus if sin was the matter get married when you hit puberty. You lasted your teen years without getting laid you can definitely last your 20s where you are more in control mentally and physically.
GTG I have to disagree there. There are some habits that you have to deal with. However young individuals do not have the maturity to handle a marriage relationship. I agree all the habits are not formed yet, but young people are very stubborn as well as lack the ability to judge others moods and habits.
I know girls who get married straight out of high school or even in HS, coz their parents think it'll "protect" them. It may seem pretty effed up, and honestly i think in some cases it is; in a way it shows that you don't trust your daughter to stay out of trouble or that she's a naive little thing who will easily let the "dirty evil desi (or kallay/goray/whatever) boys" ruin her or other bullsiht like that. But on the contrary, I look at my friends who are anything but naive and stupid and they're perfectly happy with thier husbands/"fiancees." So it really depends i think. It's all about kismat, as my mother says. if you find the right mate even when in high school/college then why not go ahead with it? At the risk of going offtopic, sometimes parents do know us better than we do ourselves up to a certain point in our lives and we should take their guidance.
Okay back to the original question: as for why someone would want to get married "so young" (21-24). I want to share my life with someone, someone who I can share my joys and accomplishments with. Dating or a long term boyfriend is not an option for me. I'm not mature enough at this age to take on such a huge commitment, but when I do feel I can handle it, that I've done what I've needed to do while single, then I'll get married whether I'm 19 or 30.
the greatest reason to marry young if you’re muslim is to protect yourself from sin…everone has a desire to have a companion in life and so marriage is a way to fulfill this need… it also depends on the individual person if they feel they are ready and understand the responsibility and what rights must be fulfilled of the spouse and want to get married then great. im 22 and just got married i havent yet graduated and my hubby is 25, i agree with gemini…“growing up” together is so great
moreover, it allows a man and woman to increase their chances sooner rather than later of entering paradise as by marrying one fulfills half his deen.
Abu Sa’id and Ibn Abbas (Allah be pleased with them both) narrate that the Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace) said: “Whoever has a child, he should give him a good name and teach him how to read and write. And when he matures, he should marry him off. When he matures and the father does not marry him off, then if the boy commits a sin, the sin will be on the father.”(Shu’ab al-Iman of al-Bayhaqi)
CM I am one of those who wants to get married early.. i am 21 and i want to get married to this girl i knw and i want to make sure that we get the head start in life, together..
I have a job, making 40k.. i have other ideas that i am not afraid to put on the table with discuss with her and get those idea to reality… we really work as a team and its great.. you won’t believe it unless you are in my place…
Its really your choice.. i want to get married because i have this awesome person in my life.. you might want to wait its upto you.
I think its typical desi thing to marry a girl off if she is 18 or 19 yrs old.
Its also happnends to guyz but more of them is the girl who get married that young.
Desi ppl think like if the girl is to old then there is no rishta's for them or something.
I was 19 myself when i get married sigh My daddy said to me it's time that you get married.
the idea is to grow young together not just old 
when did you graduate btw, last year right.