Oh boy, are we under pressure!
CP How your life will change, what you will expect, and how you must react depends on many things, but primarily whether you’ll be living with joint family (even for a few months) or in your own place.
**If with family: **Get ready to hear the things that your wife doesn’t like about your family as well as the things that your family doesn’t like about your wife. I am not talking about big things, but minor things like “I couldn’t cook what I wanted to do because your mother had this dish in mind”…or…“your wife cooked just enough for her, didn’t ask anyone else, and went to her room to eat and to talk to her family. I have always done the dishes at 8 p.m. but she didn’t do the dishes til 8:30 p.m. so I did them myself”…and your wife saying “so what if the dishes weren’t done at 8, I was going to do them when I got a chance” and so on. Hope you follow.
At times you may not be able to openly side your wife even if she’s right. When you do want to go out, family would also wish to go along. If you manage to take your wife out only, then others won’t be happy because “you have changed”. You may not be able to go out with your friends (with your wife) because then your siblings will feel left out. You may not always be able to buy stuff for your wife due to the way your money is being managed (or where it is being spent for the most part).
If living with your wife in your own place: You’ll have more peace of mind. You’ll have freedom to do whatever you and mrs. desire. Go out with friends, go out to eat, buy whatever you want and whenever you want. However, you’ll be away from the family and may need them at times. Depending on how attached you are with them, you may feel lonely. Keep in mind your finances as well whether you are able to afford your own place or not, do good homework before you move out on your own. You’ll have to really balance your time between your wife and family (via phone calls etc.).
That’s what I can think of for now.
Shikra, after reading you posts, I realized how miserable men may get sometimes due to this saas bahu tiffs/disagreements. They must be torn between their mothers and wives, two of the most important and valued women of their lives, by not being able to take either of those two’s sides.
Conclusion is that it’s not really easy to become a husband
