Getting Married - good or bad?

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Re: Getting Married - good or bad?

@Reha

Marriage is bad when its bad but really good when its good.

So you had a bad experience…personally if you ask me…judging from your posts…this is not the right time for you to be with someone. But you know better.

Now, on to the expectations part. There will ALWAYS be expectations. There should be. Who else is she supposed to take her expectations to? You won’t be happy if the pool guy or milkman starts showing up with flowers and candy, will ya? Women have so much pressure to look nice otherwise our husbands will develop the roaming-eye-syndrome and we take it very seriously. You see this multi-billion dollar beauty industry? Its certainly not about inner beauty. Have you ever seen a guy say “omg, her heart is so beautiful I want her right now!”…hmm?

I think my way of thinking is that I don’t expect to know everything about him. I don’t think there will ever be a day when its all out on the table so I don’t expect that. Those expectations are wrong IMHO because there will be surprises and not everyone is a big fan of those kind of surprises.

The bit about holidays. There’s always two ways to look at something…good and bad. And its always your choice how you choose to view something…good or bad. If you want, those holidays can be a chance for you to spend some quality time with your spouse. Or they could be a ticking time bomb ready to explode in your hands. And I personally don’t know many women who turn into raving banshees when Valentine’s Day is forgotten. They might write a blog but you’ll definitely get dinner that night.

Your choice. Your life. You get to make the rules.

I’m not that shallow, I don’t need my spouse to put on a show for me and I don’t want to put on a show for my spouse, nor do I have “roaming eyes” as my brain controls my actions, not my emotions.

I don’t mind celebrating holidays, but as I said, “raving banshee” is what I’m totally terrified of, my life is extremely peaceful and ideally I would want similar after marriage with precisely zero drama.

I think people are too materialistic these days, “stuff” like flowers, chocolates, gifts mean literally zero to me, I would much rather go to the lakes and view some stunning scenery with someone I like the company of for a bday, than be sat at home with a crazy wife that’s annoyed because I purchased the wrong “xyz” for her bday.