Getting Married - good or bad?

[sharklaser2]

Re: Getting Married - good or bad?

@Paheli00

1. There’s nothing “wrong” with cuddly toys. But I’m sure you’re intelligent and socially aware enough to realize that MAJORITY of the people are turned off by the idea of a grown man having cuddly toys on this bed. I’m sure you’re aware that to most OTHER people, this seems weird.

2. You state in your original post that you’ve been told that you’re eccentric. So you’re already very aware that many people get a negative impression of your behavior/attitude.

All this being said…when you decided to marry your 1st wife…the 1 HOUR you choose to speak to her being the nikah…was she aware of all your behaviors? Since you’ve already been told by others that your behavior is eccentric…did you make the girl aware of this? The idea that she might also find it eccentric and may not able to live with your as your wife due to her feelings towards your eccentric behavior never crossed your mind?

What’s done is done. I don’t think you’re anywhere near ready for marriage. But IF and when you do choose to marry again…I highly recommend you talk to the girl more than 1 HOUR before the nikah. And be very honest about your “eccentric”/non-traditional ways of behaving/thinking. She has a right to make an informed decision on whether or not she’s ok with marrying a non-traditional man.

True, I guess it may appear to your spouse as unusual, but perfectly harmless IMO.

I didn’t make her aware as personally I wasn’t aware of it, my sisters have them too. Its important to accept your spouse for who they are(within reason), my ex never mentioned that she suffered from HPD and was obsessed with flirting with strange blokes to the point of destroying her marriage, lying about everything she thinks she can get away with and thinking she’s above Allah himself, accepting your husband has a collection of soft toys? Not the end of the world.