We know this really family, the gentleman was a widower. He kind of dedicated his entire life to raising his kids and paying for their education. Then he quietly snuck away to Pakistan and his brother who is a close friend of mine discovered that his brother became a brand new doolah, he married a much younger divorced relative who was divorced with two young daughters. She came to live here and seemed like a rally good lady and we thought that Mr. Shah had scored a nice one. They were both deeply religious but the husband seemed quite harsh and rude towards her. One day the brother called us and told us that Mr. Shah had been arrested and charged with assault with a weapon. He allegedly threw a small object towards her and missed completely. He got arrested, lost his job. Wife kept the house and soon her brother and his family came to live with her from Dubai. She is apparently doing well,lost the hijab, got a job perhaps a boyfriend. Many in the community think that se is not a good person but I feel that Mr. Shah should have appreciated her. We have seen many cases of husbands getting arrested. Would this be allowed as per our religion
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a husband in Islam is NOT above the law. if he commits a crime, he has to do the time. where does Islam come in to the picture?
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Would this be allowed as per our religion
Hell no. Husbands can throw whatever they want on their wives. Wives should happily take such blows without any complains. It says so on page 54 of "aurat paaon kee jooti hai" by Mufti Chauvinistisi mudazallah lahu.
Re: Getting husband arrested. Is it un Islamic.
a husband in Islam is NOT above the law. if he commits a crime, he has to do the time. where does Islam come in to the picture?
The guy would give incessant lectures about religion and his wife was always posting religious postings and stuff and I think that their action should reflect the values they promote. Has happened to several other men here. Our previous Palestinian helps brother was sentenced to 5 yrs in jail as he wished in front of the children that his wife would die. If it is religious then we should promote getting police involved ad if it is not then we should advice the ladies to not call 911 so often.
Re: Getting husband arrested. Is it un Islamic.
Hell no. Husbands can throw whatever they want on their wives. Wives should happily take such blows without any complains. It says so on page 54 of "aurat paaon kee jooti hai" by Mufti Chauvinistisi mudazallah lahu.
Between marriage and jail is an option of counselling, why do people not look at that?
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This is story of pervert man and thug women.
Where and how did islam sneaked in here ??
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This is story of pervert man and thug women. Where and how did islam sneaked in here ??
This I jut one story tough, there is scores of men getting arrested and I think would be appropriate to discuss this for the benefit of many. We knew this lovely couple, they were truly love birds until mama bear came from Punjab and Faisal got all slap happy and got arrested, restraining orders and all. Couldn't come close to children and wife. Was forced for counselling. Now he is the best hubby and daddy and mom is back in Faisalabad.
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As long as the husband is restricted to only throwing objects at his wife, he poses zero risk.
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hahha 
sounds like a throw ball match 
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Between marriage and jail is an option of counselling, why do people not look at that?
Because hitting someone is not something a non-criminal person would do. Arguments can be solved by talk but hitting is just thug like behaviour. You would call the police if your neighbour or a random stranger hits you then why wouldn't the wife? Act like a criminal and get treated as one. It's all quite simple.
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Between marriage and jail is an option of counselling, why do people not look at that?
Because no one is counseling when something hits the woman in the face. :)
There needs to be a very clear message sent across to people...violence will not be tolerated and has no excuse. Simple. He threw something at her. He went to jail. Qissa Khatam.
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Between marriage and jail is an option of counselling, why do people not look at that?
So are you suggesting that the wife should have just thanked her lucky stars that he missed hitting her with whatever object was flung and suggested that they go for counselling?
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Honey, you missed hitting my face by at least 6 inches when you threw that steel pot at me. Do you want to go for a counseling session or to a shooting range for some target practice?
Re: Getting husband arrested. Is it un Islamic.
Between marriage and jail is an option of counselling, why do people not look at that?
Exactly what country or city do you live in where counseling is not part of domestic violence? In the U.S., it's common for judges to order counseling (i.e. anger management classes, group therapy etc.) for cases like this.
As for jail, men who are incapable of controlling their anger and cannot stop themselves from physical abusing their wives should be put in jail in order to keep the wives safe. Why on earth do we want men walking around in the streets who cannot control their anger and hit/threaten other people? Do we need to wait until these men actually kill someone in order to take drastic actions?
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Wife missed the catch and poor husband is in jail ???? WTH
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Exactly what country or city do you live in where counseling is not part of domestic violence? In the U.S., it's common for judges to order counseling (i.e. anger management classes, group therapy etc.) for cases like this.
As for jail, men who are incapable of controlling their anger and cannot stop themselves from physical abusing their wives should be put in jail in order to keep the wives safe. Why on earth do we want men walking around in the streets who cannot control their anger and hit/threaten other people? Do we need to wait until these men actually kill someone in order to take drastic actions?
I am talking about counselling way before police and courts have to be involved. I see the western men very open to going to counselling. We go to mosques and read the rules of domestic engagements so religiously but don't pay attention to the values and domestic laws of the countries we live in. Many times both husband and wife need to adjust their behavior. I am passionately against domestic violence but the problem is that in cases of divorce and fall outs , it is not uncommon to falsely charge the husband. This young gorgeous girl from Pakistan married one of our acquaintance and after she got her papers charged the guy with abuse and now lives a big party life changing bfs like a shirt.
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Wife missed the catch and poor husband is in jail ???? WTH
The poor guy lost his job, house everything, but he deserved it. He had it made a young beautiful tall educated woman. All he had to do was to be kind to her. He would order her around like she was a servant.
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The woman did the right thing. The first time a man hits a woman (or attempts to do so in this case) will never be the last. Once he does it initially, it gets easier to do it again and again and the cycle of abuse commences. Good on her for getting him arrested and if he has lost his job etc I can only say that this is Allah's way of punishing him. But she is in no way wrong. I am aware of a case where the wife stayed in a relationship for 18 months thinking her husband would stop hitting her. It only intensified over time and she finally got him charged/threw him out. She now deeply regrets not doing it sooner...she hung on, took his beatings, hoping he would change but he only grew worse so it was all for nothing. I wish more women had the courage to have such useless and cowardly men to be arrested. For the other part , Allah will deal with them as he deems fit.
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Extremists hide behind certain sayings in Islam to justify hitting their wives. They're bloody cowards and they need to be arrested, thrown in to jail. YOU DO NOT HIT A FEMALE/WOMAN/LADY/GIRL. I hate such people. Portray themselves as such good Muslims, but forget that the fundamental thing about being a Muslim is, being a good human being. Sod it!
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Not every domestic violence case leads to criminal conviction. Well, at least not in the UK. But from your post, it seemed like he threw a sharp object at her which the police classified as a weapon, so presumably it was a knife. This is extremely serious. Extremely dangerous. So the lady in question did the right thing by calling police, and no this is not against Islam at all.
Domestic violence is a serious issue and it affects lot more people in our community than we think! We should encourage people to come forward, report it and actively raise awareness about it.