Getting back with ex-husband

BlindHope · April 30, 2010, 6:02am

TLK.. nice of you to point out zakir naeiz ..info to be not taken ..:thank you:

now i beleive from above posters TLK will understannd me more.. so clarify if i am unable to …

so If the intention of doing halala is to remarry the former hubby then its not jaiz according to hanfiz .. cos from the word go .. it automatically is considered a contract marriage i.e. fall under the catagory of mu’ta according to hanafi sunnis .. and mu’ta according to sunni is haram.

secondly, when halala is done .. ie. you marry the second person .. you can NOT ask them to lets have sex right away so 3 iddats later i can go back to my former man.. but when you marry the new husband .. you have to wait for natural things to happen ..i.e. if they sleep .. then if protection is used cos later on shes ..gona get divorced ..so she can go back to her original ..then using this protection wouldnt be jaiz ..cos it will all be just for one reason …and now if they get kids or something .. then its highly unlikely to go back .. nor can the husband just give her talaq ..cos he may feel sorry for her.. ths isnt allowed also ..so end of the day ..what if he i.e new husband wants to keep her .. he HAS the right ..

and finalyy it boils down to this that … the whole concept is to be taken VERY seriously ..and not a contract ..cos consequuences are HARSH .. and secondly .. it IS a hadith of the prophet SAW .. that one most jaiz thing yet very disliked is talaq.. and if this thing is like repeated i mean first husband gives her and then the second .. what !! this aint a game ..

Aisha: sorry but i gotta say this .. like you ..just wrote above that your not even sure what you are ..sunni etcc .. similarly … alot of ppl dont know what they are and what islam they follw and all they know that they are muslim ..and as a consequence .. have very LITTLE knowledge of Islam and acting upon the teachings .. and due to lack of knowledge .. ppl commit these mistake and similarly in this sittuation .. ppl just get waund up in wrong things un intentionally and like in this sittuation .. ppl i even knw one couple .. end up living still togeather after talaq i.e. un-jaiz relation.

ps. aisha ..in Islam .a woman can NOT give talaq .. she can ask for something called ‘‘khula’’ i.e. to disolve the marraige ..BUT ONLY in extreme circumstances .. and halala is NOT an extreme circumstance ..cos the original guy giving talaq should have thought about wht hes doing that by giving talaq hes gona lose his wife .. so tough luck ..

my 2 or so cents

sensible post after a long time fbi :k: