Getting Angry

samb · May 6, 2010, 10:15pm

I’d like to think that I’m generally an even-tempered individual - it takes a lot to rile and upset me. No doubt, certain situations and the malicious conduct of others will anger me, but 9 times out of 10, while I may cuss in my mind, wish ill on the person for a little while, ultimately, I take a deep breath and try to move on. I rationalize the other person’s conduct by saying, Allah to dekh raha hai, aur saza aur jaza ka faisla karney waala to woh hai. I will forgive, but I won’t forget and will be more cautious in future dealings with the individual.

But in that 1 time out of 10, when I can’t control my anger, I find that my response is vicious. They say that words cut much deeper than swords and that’s me. My verbal retaliation knows no bounds - I don’t leave anything off the table and will bring back issues from years in the past. Sure, what I say is true, but it bothers me that I hurt someone, regardless of what they’ve done to me.

I always think that I’ll feel better for having vented and gotten my mad out, but I usually feel worse and I hate that standing up for myself makes me feel worse than the perpetrator of the wrong.

So, is it wrong to express your anger at someone who’s done wrong by you?

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