Re: Getting Angry
I didnt want to talk it
werna u bhi mujhey convince ker leti:@:
hmmmmm…good…par LP sahiba…MUJHE aur bhi tang math karo tum..warna main u se bohut naraaz ho jaaongi :hinna:
heheheh
Re: Getting Angry
u sirf mujhse naraz hoti hain 
Tumko kya patha…main bohut sunaathi hoon…tumko tho main abhi thak kuch nahi kaha…samjhiiiii :pcg:
Re: Getting Angry
me ko kuch nai kaha 
aur kya kehna hai:cryb:
ahahahahaahaaa…aur kya kehna hai 
abhi thak yehi bas…aage kuch hoga tho kahoongi 
Re: Getting Angry
i hope aagey kuch ho he na:@:
Exactly! I usually have a lot of sabr - but that one time when I do go off - within minutes or hours I regret my response and I feel guilty although someone else started it. Go figure.
That used to be me, with not as much guilt because I felt justified when I let it out. Though, I don't think I got too mean while in anger, but I used to hold it in until I was ready to blow up.
Then I lost a friend...
I realized that I should have been more assertive about her sarcasm and told her to cut it out every time it happened. It is because of my patience that I rarely said anything and ended up getting so frustrated that I didn't want to deal with it anymore.
I am still working on it. And thankfully, enough, I don't have that kind of people to deal with anymore, who I actually have to stand up to.
Being intelligent is acting right at right time . Next time just remind yourself that you are in control :k:
Re: Getting Angry
Takes a lot for me to be angry at someone. I find it easier to let things go for my own sanity.
I'd like to think that I'm generally an even-tempered individual - it takes a lot to rile and upset me. No doubt, certain situations and the malicious conduct of others will anger me, but 9 times out of 10, while I may cuss in my mind, wish ill on the person for a little while, ultimately, I take a deep breath and try to move on. I rationalize the other person's conduct by saying, Allah to dekh raha hai, aur saza aur jaza ka faisla karney waala to woh hai. I will forgive, but I won't forget and will be more cautious in future dealings with the individual.
But in that 1 time out of 10, when I can't control my anger, I find that my response is vicious. They say that words cut much deeper than swords and that's me. My verbal retaliation knows no bounds - I don't leave anything off the table and will bring back issues from years in the past. Sure, what I say is true, but it bothers me that I hurt someone, regardless of what they've done to me.
I always think that I'll feel better for having vented and gotten my mad out, but I usually feel worse and I hate that standing up for myself makes me feel worse than the perpetrator of the wrong.
So, is it wrong to express your anger at someone who's done wrong by you?
wow... you sound kinda hot...
LOL!
My first reaction was this:
But then I realized, you probably meant this kind of hot:
It takes a lot for me to get angry, I don't spew mean comments either..
I often hear people say "forgive but don't forget". The only possible way to forgive completely is when you forget. If someone has been mean to you, you won't ever forget. Even if you convince yourself that you've forgiven the person- whenever their name arises you can't stop yourself from hating them. I won't waste my dua's asking Allah to give them 'naik hidayet'. If someone hurts you, they deserve to get hurt.