My baby just doesn’t slep for long and it is so frustrating for me…mn with Rozas n all it’s getting difficult . In last 2days I ve slept only 5 hours..it’s 10.18 rite now n he is sleeping in my arms.. He just slept… Before that he was sleepy but not sleeping , I don’t know I was in so much neend n I jst wanted him to sleep… I just got frustrated n yelled at him I patted him somewhat strong (just little strong than usual) n I just cried loud ..
n now in feeling guilty… … Did I do wrong? Is this yelling n anger going to effect him?. Can babies understand?..
i know I ve roza n gussa n not good but I’m so much frustrated n tired n sleepy n I m alone my hubby is at work… No one to help 
Now I m crying coz I did wrong with him 
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I think what you did is wrong. Its not nice to slap kids this young. He has no understanding whatsoever. I think maybe you should reconsider your idea about fasting if you have so much ghussa and cant handle the child. Maybe you can make them up later or fast every other day.
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First of all, you should NOT be fasting when you are breast feeding such a small infant. It is clearly making you agitated and the lack of sleep is getting to you. There will be PLENTY of time to make it up afterwards, trust me! If Allah SWT gave a pass to pregnant and nursing mothers, why do you think that is? For the well being of the child.
With such a small infant, being only 2 1/2 months since you've given birth, you are still sucseptible to postpartum depression. And it seems like you are exhibiting some of those signs.
Stop fasting. Eat proper meals with good nutrition. Get as much rest/sleep as you can (nap when your baby naps!). Get as much fresh air as you can. You'll see your spirits lift and soon inshallah you and your baby will settle into a comfortable routine.
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exactly wht khati said...
and one more thing, keep in mind, first year is tough, n first 3 months are toughest because both mum and babr are learning and adjusting, if possible get some help from any close friend, family member and even if ur huby can help you in evening and you can take nap.
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stop fasting!
maybe the baby's stomach doest get full coz u r fasting n he wakes up?
i remember i was totally alone with my baby too n it was so hard to control frustrations but this time will pass soon inshaAllah
just sleep whenever baby sleeps....i used to do household chores ONLY when my husband is at home...
my baby was very fussy too....
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please dont fast.. Islam isnt a difficult religion, dont make it hard for yourself and your lil one!
and yes you did wrong by yelling and patting him the wrong way (as you said).. he understands your frustration, your anger but what he doesnt understand is the cause of it.. he is hungry probably your milk doesnt have much nutrition to it.. why do you need to fast when you are bfing a 2 month old? it takes 6 weeks but this early it will only take a week for all to go down!
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Like the above posters said, don't get frustrated with the baby, it's going to be like this for a while I can promise you this much. Be patient as soon as he's fed burp him, put him down in his crib/bouncer whatever you use during the day, just walk away (don't feel guilty about leaving him alone for a few minutes) secondly when he naps you take a nap with him, this is the only way you will catch up on your sleep. I did this right from the beginning with my girls, and thank God I still have my little bit of sanity left
fasting or no fasting that's your own thing, I won't give an opinion on that. but get YOUR REST
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Please, dont fast. Why are you putting yourself and your child through misery when Allah hasn't made it so difficult for you. Your baby is just 2 months old, he is still trying to understand the environment around him, he needs your patience and your gentle love.
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how awful to take out your anger on such a teeny little thing.
you've ignored everyone's advise and are fasting ...you are already fatigued from caring for the baby and have gone ahead to make things difficult for yourself and are now taking it out on the poor baby because you cant handle it.
grow up. act like a mature person and do only what you can manage.
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Asma.. this isnt directly towards you but I cant understand why the motehrs need to fast if they are pregnant and/or bfing? is there an extra award in the akhirah that I am not aware of? I know so many girls who are fasting while being pregnant or bfing and I respect their devotion but whats the logic behind it?
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Yes, this yelling and anger will affect your baby.
You are lucky you haven't been reported to the authorities.
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OK ladies, the mom is already feeling bad for what happened. Obviously she loves her kid as much as we all love our kids, but hormonal changes, postpartum effects, lack of sleep and fasting can make anyone a little cranky. Cut her some slacks.
Asma, as everyone said, you can skip fasting - so consider that option. Plus, cant you ask your hubby to help you out in this situation. He can take care of baby for few hours while you can catchup on your sleep.
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Yes what you did was very wrong! You do not, ever, hit a child that young. Poor baby doesn't understand a thing. Don't do it again.
What you should be doing is break your roza! He's 2 months old and I guess you must be breastfeeding. Don't fast while breastfeeding. You will mess up your supply and baby needs his food!!! It's not farz on you, why are you fasting in the first place? You need to do what is best for your baby. You can makeup for the rozas later on.
If he's your only child, sleep when he's sleeping. That's what I did when I had my baby. I slept when ever baby slept. And it REALLY helped with my postpartum depression and overall mood. I remember almost losing it sometimes with baby. Especially at night when she'd just cry and cry. You just have to remember to keep calm. It's not the baby's fault. This is a part of being a mommy and being a new mom can be very hard.
Just sleep when baby sleeps, even if it's just for 20 mins at a time. Ghar ke kaam etc can wait!
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What you did was wrong and hopefully you have realized it and will never do it again.
It is not about the baby.It is about you.You seem to be overwhelmed,not necessarily a bad mom.The baby's routine will settle down in a month or two..he might even start sleeping through the night but remember there will always be one thing or another.If you hit them once,you will try to repeat the behavior to make them settle down and relieve your own frustrations.That is what is going to cause damage.
The best is to walk away for a bit and tell yourself to calm down.I remember doing that.Letting them cry for 5 -10 mins (obviously when you know for sure they are not in real trouble) is better than hitting them or even shouting at them.And trust me every other day there is something to drive you crazy.That is parenting.
Regarding fasting,I did not when I was expecting or BFing.But that is your personal choice.But if it is too much for you to handle,then leave them now,focus on the very young baby and make up for the fasts later.
Rest,as others said sleep or nap whenever the baby does,even if it is for an hour or even less.
Not to make you feel bad,but hoping you learnt something from this and will avoid it in the future...!
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Moments like these happen. The most important thing is to take all the steps to make sure they never happen again.
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Don't have anything to say about your fasting but yelling or "patting" your baby on the back is not just wrong but dangerous for him as well.
Just so you know you getting annoyed with your baby fasting or not is pretty normal. As a new mother you are still adjusting with the whole dealing with having to care for a baby & him putting your life upside down. Its not easy but its gets better in future months. Also remember you were NOT annoyed at the baby but the rather the situation you were dealing with. The only difference is you took your frustration out on the baby.
Next time if you get "annoyed" at the baby, simply put him in his crib or a safe place & walk away from him. Give your self couple of minutes. Take deep breaths. Extra oxygen going in your lungs will help you think clearly & read Taooz. When you are most vulnerable shaitaan tries to "warghalaa" you too.
Never ever yell at your child. Even before yelling your baby can sense you are tensed. They sense our body language & emotions & in turn it makes them upset as well. The way you deal with your stress will teach your child how to deal with his stress in future.
Also the fact that you realized you did something wrong & even opened a thread here to talk about it shows that you are upset & sorry at what you did, so kick that guilt out & promise your self to never yell or "pat" your son again.
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this reminds me when we were leaving the hospital, the check out nurse went over the shaken baby syndrome and told me taht there will be moments when I will be very frustrated since I will not know why the baby is crying even after doing everything that I possibly can to make him comfortable, the worst I could do is shake him, which is very common for parents to do while holding a newborn. so yes its understandable that you got frustrated but please dont touch him when you are upset.. you may not realize but it may harm him.
and everyone gave you great advice... please listen to them.
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Ok ..thanx alot to everybody who replied....I wanna make clear I didn't hit him..l it's just I was patting him to burp n he was nt b crying.. So I started doing it fast n lil Zor say....
Bt yes I did yelled... N did wrong ... N will not do again
Ok for fast..l. Don't know tht I m gonna get extra Sawab or notits just that I get sukoon n yes i know I can avoid it for baby...bt I was just giving it a try.l.ln I think my milk supply is god till yet... N it happ all coz of less sleep...actually my father in law is returning today from a trip so was bz n ignored sleep.. (I try to sleep when baby sleeps..) n he is waking every 45 mins... N this happening since 3rd week of his life... But sometimes he does get better n sleeps 2hrs....
N yes this has happ before "sleep issue" n I use to cry but don't yell... But as u all said .. My hubby use to take care .l but in ramzan he is so bz..... Sooo I've to tc...
neways plz everybody party for my child that he starts sleeping longer at least 2hrs continuous tht is wt I need
N yes regarding fasting I have evrybody's advice in my mind ,,. If I'll feel more exhausted ill stop.. For baby n me,,,so inshallah .. Just need prayers
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Asma, do you have any idea why he keeps waking up? Maybe he's gassy? I had the same problem with my baby the first few months, figured out she had colic.