Getting a place of your own

[Southie]

Re: Getting a place of your own

@S_Punk

^ That’s very flawed logic - it’s tradition in India to kill female children… their mothers did it, grandmothers did… son’s are not called burhapay ka sahaara for no reason! Kill those baby girls.

Some traditions and cultural practices are stupid and ridiculous. They should be eradicated. One of the most prevalent in South Asians is the idea that a girl must leave behind her own family and be her ILs/husbands thru and thru. Each human being has rights and responsibilties to EVERY relationship in their life. Spousal and parental dutis are first and foremost. Then comes everything else. If we expect the son to be his parents sahara and companion in old age… a daughter has the same responsibility to her parents. Maternal grandparents can become just as lonely without their grandkids. It goes both ways.

On the other hand, it’s also understood that a man can’t live with his wifes family bcos essentially he takes over for her well-being etc frm her parents (Islamically speaking). But we take it a million steps further and shove this joint family system, DIL-guilt on every women and justify is using Islam. Islam preaches balance and justice. Why don’t we start their rather than “husband is majazi khuda” or “burhapay ka sahara”. Will do leaps and bounds of good for our crappy society.

Sorry for the long post.

Confused about your first sentence. There are several traditions in India, but this doesn’t appear to be an Indian tradition.

Granted, some people do it. But to say it is an Indian tradition is like saying terrorism is a Pakistani tradition. Both wouod he wrong.