Getting a place of your own

[Ess_Emm]

Re: Getting a place of your own

@geminifromkhi

I apologize to everyone on this forum for feeling bad for a women who looked after her DIL like her own daughter, who used to make 10 dishes for her DIL when she was expecting so that she would eat something, who was mentally prepared that her son and DIL will leave one day, but is missing them terribly now.

I also apologize for coming here like a busybody and posing this question because I was just wondering whether its ok for a girl to make her husband leave such loving parents because who knows I might find myself in a similar position in the future.

I don’t get it. On one hand you’re saying that the MIL was prepared that her kids will leave the nest, and on the other hand you’re accusing your friend of possibly the biggest crime ever committed of practically forcing her husband out of his childhood home. Why put all the blame on the girl? If the guy was that attached to his mother who took such good care of his wife, wouldn’t he want to stay in his parent’s house? Why would he leave then? Why wouldn’t he want his wife to be taken care of even more by his mother, and stay in his own house, and take on the expenses of maintaining another house? Let’s be fair, 2 people left that house, and everyone in that house according to you knew it was meant to happen, so I honestly fail to see a huge issue here. Yes, the MIL was nice. Yes your friend is lucky enough to have a MIL who treats her like her own daughter, and yes she misses her kids, but it does not in any way mean that your friend has done anything terrible or like you’ve said a few times already, MAKE her husband leave his parents. It’s absolutely ridiculous the spin you keep putting on an issue that frankly speaking the 3 people in question are more well versed about and know more about than you who is an outside unless you happen to be living with them and eating and drinking with them day in and out. And even then, you can never ever know the true feelings and sentiments of someone because only that person will know it. Is it possible that the MIL is possibly paying lip service and is saying she misses her kids? Yes! It’s entirely possible. And it’s absolutely possible that the MIL is also GLAD that she doesn’t have to cook 10 dishes for 1 person and only has to make a simple salan roti for her and her husband. And she might even be glad she has the one lone bathroom in the house all to herself again finally. Because it’s possible that while her bahu rani is taking a long ass shower, she has to wash her hands to cook 10 more dishes for her while her roti is burning on the choolha.