Getting a place of your own

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Re: Getting a place of your own

@geminifromkhi

Ideally it would be great if all Pakistani women were like that. It would be great to have parents who have activities that keep them occupied so that leaving them behind wont feel like a crime. I mean who can deny that living alone after marriage is more fun than living with in laws. Some one above mentioned her phupi, that kinda love can be confining and choking.

Most women from the previous generation were NOT working women, and their lives revolved around their children. Can we now blame them for loving their children too much?

An aunt of mine worked all her life, and is still working. Her kids are married, and live in different cities. She never really complains but everyone can sense sadness in her voice. She isnt the same person anymore. No matter how many activities and hobbies you have, there will still be emptiness inside if you get to see your kids only a couple of times a year.

You’re still missing the point here lol. For those of us who do not live in Pakistan/India and whose families have not for at least a generation or two the scenarios Reha and I have shown of independent and active women are not exceptions to the rule, but rather the norm now. I honestly can count on one hand the number of joint family scenarios that I know of here. And there is nothing wrong with that. Nor is there anything wrong with families who choose to go the joint living route. It’s a personal preference. Why are you so hell bent on making it negative and injust?