Getting a place of your own

[S_Punk]

@geminifromkhi

You are comparing two very different traditions. Killing daughters is morally and ethically wrong, and nothing in the world can justify this pathetic tradition. On the other hand, a son living in the same house as his parents after getting married makes sense. Parents wont be lonely and depressed, grandkids will get to learn a lot from grandparents, grandkids will have so many loving figures around, there will be someone to look after the children when both husband and wife are out. This setting is convenient. But of course if in laws are controlling and intruding, it makes sense to live somewhere else.

Like you pointed out, there will be complications if daughters and their husbands live with their parents. Unless maternal grandparents dont have sons, why would they be lonely?

It is also morally and ethically wrong to deprive one sex from having the same level of involvement and long-term support with their parents just cos its “tradition”.

My point isn’t to say that sons shouldn’t live with their parents - rather, sons and daughters BOTH have responsibilties to their parents and their own spouses/children. If we expect a woman to balance her duties to her own parents + her husband… the same should be expected of a son. If that entails moving out to provide a better life for his wife/kids, so be it. It shouldn’t be all “haww hayyee, becharay dada/dadi/ILs” if the son moves out.

If anything, we need to support DILs being able to support/take care of their own parents… Islamically, it’s their duty as well. But we conveniently forget that bit.