**12. It is important to deal with issues by addressing the source. **If something your husband did is bothering you, don’t go blab to everyone in your family and all of your friends. TALK TO HIM. If you have a complaint about someone, address the concern with that person. Otherwise, your complaints are simply back-biting and gossip and will never lead to an improved situation. And the fault is your own.
^^ Great point. If your husband has done something to hurt you, discuss it with him. It's absolutely useless to bring it up with your friends in discussions. Your friends don't know the context or the flip side. I have seen this be a major issue in relaionsips. Your friends might be having issues of their own and their opinions might just cloud your judgement and make a mountain out of a mole hill. Besides men absolutely hate their lives being discussed in public. So keep the urge to create a drama in check.
Women don't like it either, Stork. I feel it's the root of all these MIL-DIL dramas because men often won't talk to their wives about issues either. It's just plain common sense -- if you want to resolve a problem, you address it. If you want drama and attention, you whine and complain to others to get sympathy.