Re: Get to know him
To clarify: I didn't mean to imply that having an opinion is a negative attribute. What I meant to say was that Girls need to be careful how they express their opinion, espeically and specifically after they get married (assuming she gets married into an extended family). They must understand that in a typical Pakistani extended family there is a heirarchy: Parents > Elder brothers > husband and wife. Now, the wife cannot come into this family and start to have *nakray *or talk back or imply certain things to the elders in the family. She must understand that she is the youngest and she **must **respect her elders. By the same token, the elders including her husband will love her and look out for her and all the good stuff. But if the girl comes into the family and starts to pick fights with the mother then thats not the rite way to start off her marriage. Further, the mother should treat this girl as her own daughter and not think of her as competition.
Hope I've made things clear.