Let’s say your wife gets WAY more religious. She changes her clothing, drops her job because she says women who sit at home are more closer to God, stops doing her hair and going out to nice dawats for you, starts wearing niqaab, you can’t even see her face in public when you go out with her.
And now let’s say all this change happens, and she tells you - who doesn’t have a beard: you need to grow a beard.
She starts believing that pictures are haraam, and throws out your camera and you’re now not allowed to take pictures of your own kids. You figure out ways to sneak in pics using the camera on your iphone, and she finds out you do that, and she gets into an argument with you and tells you she told you not to take pics of the kids.
She asks you that every year when you save up for a family vacation, you guys have to go to Saudi for Umrah. You say, how about Paris this time? She says absolutely not, it’s a haraam city, you guys have to go to Saudi instead. So you begin to look for ways to travel through work to keep up with your hobby of seeing the world.
When you met her, she wore regular fashionable shalwaar kameez, had her hair done nicely, make-up on, etc. And now she just wears burqa and niqaab when she goes out, because she took some religious classes and got inspired by the clothing of her teachers, and so she believes this is the right Islamic way to do things.
When you go for jumma, she notices your shalwaar, and asks you to hike it up, so your ankles show.
How would you deal with this?
By the way, this is not hypthetical. My cousin did this to her husband. She pulled all these changes on him immediately after the marriage. She had become religious prior to the marriage, but decided to hide all this so she could continue on with the marriage. Then after marriage, she changed completely. She was inspired by classes by Farhat Hashmi.
She doesn’t let her husband take pics of her kids. In fact, I’m not allowed to take pics of my niece and nephew. I once did secretly, and she pulled me aside and made me give up the picture.
