So let’s say your brother/sister confides in you and tells you he/she has feelings for same sex. Would you accept him/her? Maybe even help him/her break the news to your parents?
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wait a minute opposite sex or the same sex :)
and my answer would be 'no' to both.
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^ 
lol yes! same sex..
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i would not support them. i would tell them to seek help and turn to their religion. if they carried on "bieng gay" i would tell my parents. they would deal with them.
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^ But what if they are convinced that this is natural and they can't change who they are. What if it comes down to your sibling threatening to take his/her own life?
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^ But what if they are convinced that this is natural and they can't change who they are. What if it comes down to your sibling threatening to take his/her own life?
Cant we play religious card here?
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Cant we play religious card here?
no I am afraid we can only play 'dostana' here or chuck and larry maybe :)
on a serious note..apart from religious implications ..I would firmly tell him/her that this could lead to a huge mess as it's far from natural. Even if two people of the same gender get married : what would their family life be? wouldn't they want kids somewhere in their life? even if they adopt them who would be the 'mom' and who would be the 'dad'...the ever increasing risk of all sorts of STDs
There could be a numerous reasons to tell them..and if all else fails in the worthy words of some GS poster "i'd beat the crap out of them' :p
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^I know Islam's position on this issue. My point is wouldn't you feel extremely sorry for him/her. Would you keep pushing them to not go that route? What if he/she starts hating the religion of Islam, his/her family, and even the desi culture? Wouldn't it be just better to accept him/her for who he/she is before he/she really does something you'd regret?
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^I know Islam's position on this issue. My point is wouldn't you feel extremely sorry for him/her. Would you keep pushing them to not go that route? What if he/she starts hating the religion of Islam, his/her family, and even the desi culture? Wouldn't it be just better to accept him/her for who he/she is before he/she really does something you'd regret?
Yes even keeping Islam aside I can see a lot of reasons to discourage him/her from this. In any case acceptance by us wouldn't prevent them from being a social outcast and a list of psychological issues could follow then too.
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You cant do much here so just play Gay poker with them , where queens are valid and straights dont count 
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beat him up.
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It doesn't matter what you think, what matters is what they feel is real. They are willing to fight the world, live as an out cast but the last thing they would want is lose your support. You can't do much like Naabigh said. My question is why would you drive them away from yourself and your family just because he/she feels "gay"? Why not just accept and love him/her and hope he/she sees the light some day?
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I would have a difficult time doing it, but I would support them. It also depends on the circumstance. If, say, they are the hypothetical university student who is "experimenting" for the fun of it or something, I would not support it. But if I know that they are serious and responsible in their lives then I would take it seriously.
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^Absolutely, I do believe a lot of people are GAY for FUN..
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It doesn't matter what you think, what matters is what they feel is real. They are willing to fight the world, live as an out cast but the last thing they would want is lose your support. You can't do much like Naabigh said. My question is why would you drive them away from yourself and your family just because he/she feels "gay"? Why not just accept and love him/her and hope he/she sees the light some day?
And why should I listen to this and not to Allah? How is he/she going to see the light if everyone acts as if this is completely normal, halal, perfect and he/she has nothing to lose by going down this path?!
Anyway, in the world that we live in, where hijab is compulsory in one part of the world and banned in the other, where alcohol is illegal in one area and legal in the other, where abusing drugs is the norm in one culture and unheard of in another, where religion is a joke for some and the focus of their lives for others, live and let live is the only way we can survive in peace.
The beauty of Islam is that I'm not answerable/punishable for what others do. I am accountable only if I didn't teach my family what Allah has ordered us to teach. Other than that, jo karna hai karo but don't come begging to me for support/pity/affection. To you your religion (or the lack of) and to me my religion.
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^I am not asking you to listen to what I wrote. It's a hypothetical situation. Would you rather have your sis/bro commit suicide in shame because he/she has dissapointed his/her family and Allah? What's the point right, he/she will be going to hell anyway?
I am not saying he/she is sexually active. This is something he/she feels very strongly about. It defines who he/she is.
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I tell them i disapprove of their choice and cannot support them on their choice but it's his/her life and i will love them no matter what choices they make even if I think the choices they are making are wrong--and I would also apologize to them in advance and tell them that unfortunately they have left me with no choice but to break it to our parents --that I would prefer it if they break it to our parents themselves but if they dont do so within "such and such" time I will have to do it myself
I think they said that being gay - is due to your genes most recently. They either get too many (in expression not chromosomes) of their mothers or fathers traits. I am not sure if I agree as the sex gametes are either XX or XY
I am again not sure if being gay is a disease of the mind - like those that are more criminally inclined have a different (under-developed frontal lobe - I think was what I read - compared to those that aren't)
I often think god has pre-written our destiny whether we be gay or straight - whether we are black or White, etc - so I often think yes we are given "choice" but in lay terms it's all written before we were born.
Coming back to the question at hand - I would feel it would be a waste. As I think the whole process is to have kids, saying that some people cannot have them naturally either - I would ask them to refrain from relations with anyone. As this would increase sin - I wouldn't accept it with open arms. But at the end day they are my sibling - I would ask them to seek solace in god. It's a tough one. It really is!
ESP as our religion completely condones this.
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^ But if being homo was already 'written' for us, why would we be held accountable for it before our Lord?
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^I am not asking you to listen to what I wrote. It's a hypothetical situation. Would you rather have your sis/bro commit suicide in shame because he/she has dissapointed his/her family and Allah? What's the point right, he/she will be going to hell anyway?
I am not saying he/she is sexually active. This is something he/she feels very strongly about. It defines who he/she is.
What, where did suicide come into the picture? o_O
reads the rest of the thread ..... I see. If he/she's free to do whatever, why would suicide come into the picture? As I said, jo karna hai karo, none of my business, but understand why you're not getting my support and move on.