I wouldnt have been interested to marry someone who wasnt a Muslim. Nor would have been interested in someone who didnt pray 5 times a day.** If they dont even take care of their relationship with God, why would I expect them to take care of their relationship with me! **
no offense to anyone, just sharing my personal feelings
wow. that's a good response. kudos.
I think this issue ties very closely into a person's belief and understanding of the hereafter. If they dont believe that they will die and be brought back and called to account for everything they did, then its easy to brush a matter like prayer under the rug and say its not very important. If they do believe in consequences of actions and that Paradise will not merely be gived on a silver platter to everyone who just runs around saying "Jesus loves me", then they will see that what we do in this life does have value and significance and that it matters, it matters alot
Everyone who said they know people who pray and yet were horrible people and others who dont pray and are good people --this doesnt show that there is something wrong with the salah itself, it shows there is something wrong with that particular person and their prayer. If we are truly praying, sincerely from our heart, we are coming to stand before God 5 times a day, seeking to make a connection with Him with our hearts, asking for His Guidance and Forgiveness. It gives you a sense of consciousness that God is always with you, always seeing what you do. It should help uplift you, in all your relations, to be a better person, to do the best you can. If you are able to pray and still abuse the rights of others, then you are obviously not fulfilling the Right of Allah in the correct way
Im not saying that everyone who prays is a saint and can never do any wrong. Im not saying that whoever doesnt pray has absolutely no good qualities in them and is an automatic monster. All Im saying, are we really so willing to settle for such a mediocre person to spend our life with? How come when it comes to worldly things, its so easy for us to set such high standards of what we expect in a spouse, whether its in terms of intellect, beauty, riches, status, lineage etc. We are not willing to settle for anything less than the best, whatever we see as being the best. Yet when it comes to the religion, we make our standards so low and what is praying 5 times a day, its a big deal to suddenly even pray 5 times a year
Yes people pray for different reasons, but thats why its God Who judges their intentions and actions, not us. That doesnt mean that we shouldnt encourage others to pray or think that encouraging them to pray means they are only praying to please us. And again, there is a difference between someone who acknowledges the importance of prayer and yet neglects to pray out of laziness or some other thing, and someone else who thinks that prayer isnt even important, or it isnt obligatory
Living in this world, its easy to get so caught up with our lives, we dont like to think about the next world, we dont like to think about the grave and hellfire. But these matters are all a reality. We are all going to die one day, whether we pray or not. Allah describes the Day of Judgement in the Quran as a day when we will wish to ransom our own mothers and fathers and husbands and wives and sisters and brothers and sons and daughters, wish to throw our dearest loved ones into the fire in hopes of saving our own necks. Thats the reality we are denying. If we had double the entire weight of the earth in gold we would wish to give it to ransom ourselves from the fire. And yet what is being asked of us in this life is much less than this. Do we deny the reality of meeting Allah one day or do we really care so little for our loved ones in this world that we cannot even be bothered to help them live the best life in this world, so they can have the best life in the next world. If we really love Allah, we would at least try to do what pleases Him. And if we really love our family, we would at least try to ecnourage them to do the same. True love isnt a noun, its a verb and verbs call for action
beautiful!mashallah
^ Would it be OK if a person is not disciplined about praying 5 times but is embarrassed about that. There are many people now a days who dont pray but know that they are doing something wrong by not praying. There are others who dont pray beause they think that it is not important. I think first categoary is still better. No?
right first category is better but he should show that he is really trying too. Only kehna and practicaly karna na, is not going to work either. But kher itna judge tou mein kar loon gi ke how true he is in his words.
Re: future spouse, being Namazi
I read somewhere that reading namaz 5 times a day was a gentle reminder that we shall one day return to our maker and nothing is possible unless he wills.
My thought process at the time of finding a spouse was if he is a practising Muslim we will be better Muslims together and if he can get one of the pillars spot on we can work on the others together too. Waking up for Fajr in summer to be shows a persons commitment to their afterlife and their solid belief. If someone cannot get up to do 5 namaz a day why would they bother doing all the little stuff like give to charity, spend time with their family...etc etc etc.
Each to their own, and this is my opinion only but marrying someone who wasn't a practicing Muslim is opening up the doors to further issues down the road e.g. when you have kids will you force them to go Mosque even though daddy doesn't/mummy doesn't practice at home?
Re: future spouse, being Namazi
If he wakes up to fajr - great. He can be my alarm clock, so I can get to work on time. :k:
Otherwise, I see no reason for it to really affect me. He is answerable for his decisions, and I for mine. There will be no cross-punishment, as to why didn’t you get your spouse to be more or less religious. So, as long as that is true, it really shouldn’t matter how religious your spouse is. You worry about yourself.
Re: future spouse, being Namazi
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not that i'm married or anything, but I don't think it works like that. Marriage is not about to each their own, but rather making each other better, in this case a better muslim. Offering namaz is not detrimental to health, on the contrary one should see it as the retirement plan for the afterlife. So yeah, worry about yourself and him, because I (hope) you'd want him to be in jannat too.
Re: future spouse, being Namazi
^agreed. I think there is a beautiful hadith about spouse waking another up for fajr, i wonder if someone here remembers that one?
I would love to marry a girl who is five time namazi and perfectly knows how to balance her life as well as her deen. Where can you find these kind of girls nowdays????. The one i find them are so much in love with bollywood songs and movies as if Allah Swt will ask in the Kabar as to what bollywood movies she has watched and how many songs does she know.
Re: future spouse, being Namazi
I just think people should marry those who are on the same page when it comes to religion. I wouldn't want my future husband to enforce his religious beliefs on me. It's not a good idea to marry a girl/guy whos clearly non-religious and you are. Before getting married, you should have a chat with them about their religious priorities.
Re: future spouse, being Namazi
aww I think it would be sooo cute and rewarding to wake one another up for fajr prayers! If someone finds that hadith please do post it....