I was at a friends place recently , since her father passed away. There were many people around ( relatives and all ) … since they werent very well off they decided against ordering food or catering and cooked themselves … one of their khala’s took the responsibility and made biryani … I thought that was a very wrong choice
now my question is … what sort of food should be prepared on such a sad occasion .. clearly people are not there for the food .. but still feeding them is the responsibility of the home owner …
When my nani passed away, my mom's family ordered korma and naan, and I think some kind of rice. You can't really feed daal roti to visitors.. although I would take the latter over korma any day.
There was this funny bit i heard someone saying. '8 manns(mounds) of oil was used on the funeral and i was wondering if they deep fried the dead body before burying' lol. the fancy food is common practice specially on 40th day.
My phupho passed away last year and my father ordered for daal and chicken qourma with naans. I think thats alright. But if you are making at home, the time demands it to be something simple.
No It would feel odd to me. I mean we should be able to distinguish between funeral food and wedding food. With simple i mean anything that doesnt require complications like biryani does.
when someone passed away a while ago my mum made pilau and sent that over for the family. i suppose a rice dish is easy and convenient. i would class fancy food to be something like haleem or kofte... not something that should be served at a funeral IMO
I've found it's usually a chicken handi (or rice-pilau) served with nans. Isn't it custom for people who are close to the family to provide food for the guests (they did when my Nani passed away in 2007).
On the other hand, if someone who the family really didn't get on with passes I'd imagine the meal would be a celebration rather than a sad affair. I've seen it happen, and unfortunately I cannot critise them for it.
sorry for my ignorance...but....are we required to feed someone (religiously I mean) after a funeral? I dunno..i think after such a sad occasion, i wouldn't care to feed anybody!
^ yeah , it shocked me too coz i hadnt been to any desi funerals … and suddenly recently a few deaths happened and I was shocked out of my mind to see what was going on … the food was like really fancy …
someone told me that originally it was said that when one passes away , you make some good food and give it to the poor on behalf of the one who died , mainly for sawaab for that person… but ultimately the trend got twisted and people started giving food to the guests rather the then poor
thats crazy man. God forbid (and i hope the day never ever ever ever ever comes), someone will expect a banquet at a funeral. and shame on those guests who would compalin about food at a funeral.
Sara you will be shocked , one of the families had asked me to come over for the “quls” … I think it was supposed to be the quran khaani for the one who passed away … and I saw ladies waiting for the food more then readin the quran :no:
from what i've seen, when someone dies the immediate family isn't really responsible for feeding guests after that...its usually extended fam and friends that make sure that when they come they bring some sort of food thats enough to not only feed everyone there but also last the immediate family and extra day or two so they don't have to step into the kitchen at all.
I dont like people who would celebrate on someones death .. even if they hated him in his lifetime 