^ same here chicken/lamb shorba with naan or maybe some rice, the immediate family never cooks, its usually someone who knows them very well who cooks a meal for them....and for any guests that are present at the moment
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wow , thanks for the clarification Pakgirl and Guac ... I always thought its the host getting the meals ordered /prepared ...
In our family, at the home in which the death has occurred, unkai yahan chuhla nahin jalatein. In other words, they don't cook at the immediate family's home until the "teeja or sauyum" (three days after the death).
The family whose loved one has passed away will host the quran khaani on the teeja and an elaborate meal is cooked then. Back in Pakistan/India the rationale was that the food was distributed to the poor and the poor would remember the deceased in their prayers and say a fateha for the deceased. The same holds for the chehlum or 40th day when another quran khaani is hosted - a proper good meal is served for the same reasons noted.
In the three days between the death and the teeja/sauyum, various friends and family will bring food. Like some of the others mentioned, dishes like daals, sabzis/tarkaries, khichri, pulau, achaar, simple meat dishes, roti, naans are cooked and brought over.
I’ve seen this happen plenty of times. It’s not a case of people come to read the Quran, the actually come for the food and to socialise. It’s a sad sign of the times.
We’ve decided to not hold many Quranhanis amongst friends/people we know instead we just read as a family, or over a period of time. Some have branded us ‘cheap’ for doing and I heard from a ‘friend’ that we were branded cheap ‘because we didn’t do a Quranhani and feed the women’. Yeah, getta life!
To be honest when my Nani passed away we were in such a state of shock none of us really bothered eating for a few days. The visitors coming to our house were pretty much the same.
… that is so awful…
Food should be the last thing on peoples minds during this sort of an occasion…
Simple food should suffice and be good enough 
Chicken Saalen, naan, daal, simple salad…
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We do similar to Sehrysh in my family. When a really close neighbour passed away all the frirends (they don't have extended family here) took it upon themselves to provide food for the family and those visiting for khatam etc. Everyone spoke to each other or co-ordinated through my mum to ensure there was no wastage and duplication, but it was simple food. People brought things like aloo gosht, keema, daal, boiled rice, naan.
When my bhabi passed away, it happened on a weekend we were all due for a dawat at one of my cousins, as he had external catering he brought that food over instead of cancel the order, so the food was more lavish with korma, biryani etc. But that was an exception.
We just keep it simple - enough to feed the people gathered, but not too OTT.
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I dont think the immediate family of the deceased should be expected to cook for anyone! That is obviously the last thing on their mind and the last thing they should be worrying about after burying a loved one. The extended family and close friends should have the good sense to bring over food