Re: frustrated with everything!
Just to let u know he text me earlier and i could tell he wanted to talk about things and since he made the effort i got back to him. He asked about me not speaking to him so i thought we could have a mature discussion and i said 'because thats the only way i can give you the space you want as i can't help my feelings at times and last thing we need is to keep arguing and getting stressed out while your trying to study'. He said 'ok so when are you going to chat to me properly again?' so i said whenever he feels ready, i will wait till all his exams are over if it avoids us having problems (as i would not have contacted him for awile anyway). He really appreciated this and said he is proud of me and loves me loads. He reminded me that i've waited this long and its just a matter of few months now so i have to be patient and not get insecure because he isn't going anywhere lol. He said he misses me and to take care/look after myself/eat properly as he knows i tend not to when im depressed. I said i will because iv gt to be strong now and get through. I prayed that we would sort this out without us having to part ways only if that would be better for us. But Allhumdulillaah we were able to talk and stay positive. I've decided even if my parents keep bothering me about engagement etc i'm just going to tell them to go directly to his parents because his got exams and i can't do his head in about it till they over (and then i'll make up for it!) lol thanks everyone for your advice/views :)
Wooohooooo!!!!!!! Yay!!!!!! Good girl!!! You did a nice job with the responses that you gave him, Yoko. You basically told him that you understand that importance of giving him a break since he's stressed out with exams. And he APPRECIATED your understanding and showed you some understanding and reassurance in return. That is great!
And I like the way you plan to handle it with your parents. Any talks about rishta should always be handled by the girls parents.....to safeguard her reputation. So, if your parents bug you about him....tell them to talk the rishta issues with his parents** AND** also remind your parents to please be considerate of the fact that he is studying for his final year exams right now and that it would be best to delay any discussions until his exams are over.
Just make that kind suggestion to your parents. Because I'm sure THEY wouldn't like it if someone was disturbing their own daughter during her exams.
Overall, nice work, YOKO! And best wishes for a speedy and smooth settlement of affairs!