jus having a realy crap time so decided to let off some steam here! hopfully som1 can make me feel abit better or think differently bcoz im jus gettin so depressed! wel 1st fing is fam probs, 2much goin on der 2 explain, but lets say its a diff stress new arguemnt everyday n pressure 4m every angle 2 gt engaged/ married. My partner of like 2 yrs nw (long distance relationship) n me r havin probs aswell n its jus soo hard..i jus feel lyk runnin away 4m everyfin coz i do need a break, its been constant battle n stress wid uni/family/him tryin 2 balance everyfin 4 past 2 yrs. My fam know abt him dey hav done since I told em wn it started (luv mariage)..so dey hav waited quiet awile, Iv finished wid uni n his still studyin final year. My mums intent on getin us engaged in few months wen finishes uni n den bookin hall 4 weddin, bt he dsnt evn wna talk abt it, says im putn pressure on him etc. His parents r in no rush n dey wil delay it as mch as pos..n i need him 2 understnd n mke dem understnd coz my mums nt gna wait arnd 4 eva..if wasnt 4 him i wuda been maried alredy. He knows its important bt jus wnt discuss it, n makes me feel like i don’t matter. Marryin him is all i want rite nw n he dsnt evn seem botherd at da mo..wev had so many arguemnts bcz he dsnt understnd me or my fam..n blames me 4 bein unsupportive..ahhh im jus so fed up ov da arguing nw..do u think i should leave him n giv him space till he finishes uni? das the only option i can c dats gna help me cope! i’ve done dat many times n missed him bt den it al starts again..bt now i cant take no more!
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lol
I dont think this thread is going to help the starter.
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Woman. You need to do the following. Tell everyone to back the hell off. If you live in a college dorm or somwhere that is not home. Shut off your phone. No interent. No friends nothing. Take a day off and just relax and chill.
Do what you enjoy. Whatever it is your crazy women do. Go sit in a park and a read a book. Have a bubble bath, listen to music, go grab a movie.
Tell everybody to **** off and relax yourself.
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If he doesn't want to talk about it there must be a reason. Are you sure he's serious about you? I don't know about you but I find long distance relationships a bit funny.
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lol how is typin in short hand devaluing me degree? its jus quicker 2 get across wa u wna say 4 those who can understand.. neways..thnx 4 the advice CM, i soo wish i was living away then i could shut off..its all 2much esp now when i can't even escape the stress and he isnt helpin..he is serious ino dat much..its not like we havn't met or anything..parents r involved aswel which was ment 2 help us b 2geva..bt its mainly msn/txt now..hardly cht on the phone aswel..n its easier 2 hav misunderstandins when ur not in person i gues..las tym we spok he sed its stresful n iv gt 2 adjust 2 hw he is now..i do need 2 relax bcz im js lettin my life revolve around him at the mo..so il leve him 2 it 4 now
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your levels of spelling and grammar in the first post are for the most part somewhat not conducive to proper argument and discussion.
Essentially, if you type 'lyek dissssss' and you have improper syntax and spelling/grammar, you shouldn't be allowed in the big boy's forum.
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ok and that goes for the majority of the posts I have read myself on here on many forums that are not in standard english.. its a choice so what is the big deal being formal its not like I'm sitting an exam and the examiners will fail me. I didn't see any restrictions on language use on these forums before
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^ Yoko - your last post makes the most sense - and it could be due to legible english.
As for your situation, CM said it right :k:
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lol ok
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ok and that goes for the majority of the posts I have read myself on here on many forums that are not in standard english.. its a choice so what is the big deal being formal its not like I'm sitting an exam and the examiners will fail me. I didn't see any restrictions on language use on these forums before
well then the majority of posts that you have read are from village idiots. seriously, how is anybody going to take your situation remotely serious when you have such hideous language skills?
^ Yoko - your last post makes the most sense - and it could be due to legible english.
This.
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Ok point taken although I don't judge people and their situations by how they type as it isn't always necessary that how they type on here is a true representation of their language skills.
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Ok point taken although I don't judge people and their situations by how they type as it isn't always necessary that how they type on here is a true representation of their language skills.
agree.
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Yokko, while you wont' be "Tested" or "judged" on your typing as if it's an exam, think of it this way, noone will bother to read your post if its written in shorthand so you wont get the help that ur looking for. Not everyone here can understand txt/type lingo but most ppl can undrestand decent enough English, and while noone is grading ur grammar, keeping it somewhat decipherable such as your last post, will just help u better.
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Yes, I have gathered that now!
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so basically this whole issue it is more about others not being able to understand how some people prefer to communicate which is understandable. However that doesn't mean they have no language skills/education and are village idiots (that was the judgement I was referring to) and I have to admit this has taken my mind off the problem for which I started the post! lol
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^ Good, that was teh whole point wasnt it. :D
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Yoko:::
Either he needs some space, needs to learn how to value you, isnt serious or something else. Whatever the reason is, you're handling it the wrong way. You shouldnt be the one bringing up marriage all the time and if you do, he should be mature enough to have a sensible discussion without getting all "pressured".
What you need to do is get the heck out for a bit. Dont formally break up with him, fight with him or make a scene. Control your anger and start to distance yourself a little bit. Stop calling him, wait for him to call you and see how long it takes him. Dont be the first one to make a move, let him do it and see if his moves are even sincere. This will do two things: help you stop being so emotional (it hurts a lot and I can understand) and you will be able to see things from a more aloof perspective. You'll be able to figure out if this is REALLY the guy you want to be with for the rest of your life.
Men and women are attracted to confidence. When you become emotionally dependant on someone for happiness, it can actually hurt your relationship. What Im saying is, get involved in your own life. Do things for yourself...get a haircut, get a mani/pedi, go shop, get a job, go volunteer somewhere, go back to school for further studies, get involved in your community, etc. Do something that will take your mind off of him and also restore some of your confidence because I feel you're lacking right now. Once you get yourself back and your life isnt about this guy anymore, one of two things will happen. Either he will snap out of his wierd state of mind or you will conclude this isnt what you want and leave him.
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woww PSquared what you are saying has really helped me clarify some things. I totally understand he needs space to study etc I've been through it myself and i'm not expecting him to chat to me all the time. It shouldn't always be me bringin up marriage but the least he could do is not shatter all my excitement by saying its unnecessary pressure and thats what gets me more frustrated. Then I tend to start thinking allsorts and get negative about the whole thing. What you've said about dependency is soo true, I became used to the attention/time everything he gave me and now that were getting more serious and should be closer its not there im struggling to cope and become my own person again. Thanks for your advice again!