Re: from living with parents to living with a husband
714 ny has bad traffic jams too. maybe u can get a job in that city, and take train into downtown so u dont have to deal nwith traffic, and get your own place close to your folks (not too close not too far). I think that is something you can convince them of, saying u want to try living on your own. not the perfect solution but it has a higher probability of working without much issues, ..or that can be your fall back position, start with you need to move to xyz city for better opportunity.
I think it varies from family to family, i knew girls who went to school in a diff state or in a diff city in the same state, lived in dorms, later had apartments, got jobs in the city etc.