After one of the many hours spent contemplating and reminiscing with pals, I’ve come to the conclusion that the best friends I’ve made so far were all people that in the beginning I didn’t like or was indifferent towards. By contrast, the ones I hit it off with immediately, quickly faded away, either we stopped talking as quickly as we’d started, or…actually no that’s it.
I used to complain alot about them, complain TO them about the dumbest things, when they were all going through more difficult things and just laughed it off.. can’t pinpoint xactly when, but I let go of my expectations that friends should be a certain way and get upset when they dont live up to some fantasy idea of what a friend is like (ahh effects of a lonely childhood :hinna: )…i learned to separate hte petty issues from the “serious” issues..
So yeah I guess this means I have not-so-good judgement of people, but theN i also got really good friends out of it. Which is kinda kewl…
I've got 1 or 2 (never more) best friends and those were the ones I connected with as soon as we met (many centuries ago) and no matter how long we stop talking or don't see each other, its always the same when we do talk or meet again other than the usual gile-shikway, etc.
Rest of the "friends" community is just salam dua and thats how it should be.
hmmmm that is so true ppl i met and didnt really like to start off with are now my best friends and theppl i did like i just disliked weni got to know them a bit better
Real friends are the ones who are able to stand by you, through thick and thin. Not the ones who bail on you when things get rough, be it for them or you. I have also made a lot of mistakes about who I have become friends with, but fortunately, I’ve also managed to maintain friendships with some genuinely fantastic people.
I don't believe in friends forever or whatever it is because i trusted someone
a lot and that person broke my trust. I have friends yeah and to some i am close with but don't believe in that we are friends forever that is crap.
LOL. Let’s see, I only talk to one of my friends via fone or internet, that’s it. They graduated and work fulltime now. I barely “ghoom phir” with friends, i only see them inside of college, warna I stay in liberry.
I don't have alot of friends....many aquaintances, but very few friends.
We don't hang out that much, but whenever we do, it is gile shikwe first, and then we just talk talk and talk...
the very first friend i made was in pre-school..and i m still in touch with her... eventhough, she is in pakistan, we both call, txt msg, email eachother..
to me a friends in someone who has not only laughed with you, but cried with you as well....
feels your emotion when you are down...
is there for you when you need a friend...
who you can talk to about the most silliest things and not once think what he/she will think of you...
and vice versa...
Frienship is a subtle issue ... i mean like Mrs S said that 'not-so-good judgement' i think this isnt right because everyone chooses a friend to be because of they see something in them thas why they chose em as a friend but later to sa it was bad judgment ... its not that but its rather that the friend you / or infact anyone makes .. they do not understand you and the did not fullfil the haq of dosti and dont understand the concept of dosti ... to prove this point .... i can relate you my own incidents and i ve seen it happen ... where you make some one your friend but it turns out that they back stab you or they turned out to be bad and they dont live upto your expectations ...
.. and its true that the friends you make at the beginning and friends very fast i think they are the best friends ... alhamdo lillah i have some friends ... who i know i can trust at any time and how they came about is just out of the blue ... bacame friends...and these are the sorta friends that a person should have and you know for your self that this person is your real friend and this friend will help me etc at times of need ...
... but overall ...chossing who to be your friend and who you should be friends with is a difficult task indeed ..
^ am sorry to dissapoint you but ... with me its not the case amnd sometimes the most close person you are to and you think that this person is the one .. but its not the case ...cos theres even a saying that an enemy thinks twice before it attacks but the close person dont need to think .. they ll just attack ...
so in some cases those who a person may think is a good friend but in actual fact they are not and here am talking from experience ...
of all my friends, i'm the one whos changed the most (thats what htey've said, not me), before I didnt appreciate them or really go beyond my little world (meaning, i was very self obsessed and conceited), but now I do...i had ppl i thought I was friends with, but they turned out to just be worthless as freinds..fun conversations, fun to talk to, but absolutely no support or help whatsoever
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