of all my friends, i'm the one whos changed the most (thats what htey've said, not me), before I didnt appreciate them or really go beyond my little world (meaning, i was very self obsessed and conceited), but now I do...i had ppl i thought I was friends with, but they turned out to just be worthless as freinds..fun conversations, fun to talk to, but absolutely no support or help whatsoever
well you took the words write out of my mouth about ^ and i have personally seen this in the last three weeks ...
well you ve now got other things to worry about … since i heard you got married right
and if right then congratulations …
but the thing is in a friendhip is who to trust and who not to … what i mean is there are friends you trust and they make you feel that you can trust them .. but when it comes to crunch time … you realise they are not even friends … like few incidents happed with me and now its like i dont even know the people and where they come from in terms of their thinking … but choosing who to be friends with and who not to be is really hard these days especially …
^ Hun it took me like 3 years to figure that out… in back of my mind i always knew how they were, but i don’t know what my thought process was, I just didnt’ want to think the worst…i finally got fed up, I bulieve it was the first day of Ramadan, when I realized, F them, they dont deserve to have me as thier buddhy
well it took me 7 months to realise this … since i was friends with them for the past 3 years … and 7 months … but 7 months ke baad find that … no point wasting my time with these ppl since they are not worth it.
same here i always had these thoughts in my mind weather to trust em or not but i always also had this in mind that they are being good to me and ll that .. but yet at the same time just recently i find that these same ppl have been against me for past three or so years…
well things are better now since i ve left those ppl and intend to just ignore em and for future just keep a rule … think twice and never trust no one … till your satisfied and in your mind you know you can trust some one…
I think friends, like many other things in life, come in all shapes and characters. There are the extremely rare ones that are loyal and true, then the more abundant ones who are casual friends that are nice to hang out with and see every now and then, and then on the other end of the spectrum, those that are hypocrites, liars, cheaters, backstabbers, etc etc. Personally, I think I’ve met (and sadly befriended) one of every kind. I wish I could’ve recognized the backstabbers and liars earlier, and my biggest regret in life is that I ever thought to trust and call them ‘friend’. Live and learn I guess.
Mrs Saieen, it’s funny you mentioned friends you start out not liking then they turn out to be your best friend. My first close friend, I met her in 5th grade.. we hated each other at first, then became best friends. I had thought we were close friends well into adulthood, but as I moved forward in life, and she for her own reasons did not not advance very far, our friendship deteriorated completely. I believe the root of the cause is she envied what I have achieved, and so we just stopped staying in touch.
Yet I have another friend, who I did like from the very first, who is indeed my best friend, and has been for the past 17 yrs. I feel truly blessed to have such a friend, because she is a best friend in every sense of the word. We both grew up and changed over the course of high school and college, then our jobs and marriages took us to different cities, but when push comes to shove, she has always been there for me, and I hope I’ve always been there for her too. Hmmm… which reminds, I need to give her a call and bug her. Best thing about suffering through maid-of-honor duties for your best friend’s wedding… you can pay her back when it comes to planning your own wedding!
