Friendship

Lifestyle Relationships
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What does it mean to you? What kind of a relationship do you share with your friend/s? And, how important are they in your life?

P.S. This is my first ever thread in Life1.. so erm yeah, be nice :snooty:

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I've a small group of close friends. Our relationships are based on mutual respect, trust, and communication. We may not agree with each other all the time, but we can agree to disagree respectfully and can depend on each other.

What do I think about friendships? They're essential to our overall well-being and development. It's good to have a network of people (small or big) outside your family that you can connect with.

My friends are important to me. They are not the sole and only priority in my life....but they've helped in their unique ways to shape who I am today:)

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Hey there, thanks for being the 1st one to reply to my first life1 thread! :blush: lol

Anyhow, I agree with you.. but how about this for a situation.. lets say you see your friends all the time in college.. on top of that, they keep making plans on the weekend to spend time with each other and you just feel itā€™s too much & unnecessary, so you make excuses not to spend time with them outside college. Does that make you a bad friend? I mean, there are no problems or anything within the friendship.. but weā€™re talking about the same group of people, always, all the time. It just gets a bit tedious and you just need some space. PLUS, you have WAY more things to be getting on with! (Also note, the rest of the group are more than happy to meet up 24/7.. so you feel like you are just the odd one out)..

I look forward in hearing your take on this.. :smiley:

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First of all tell me what that cute face (beside ur name) is doing with a name like chipkali..hehe

friends to me are someone you can hang out with when you have nothing else to do. I'm a reserve person my self, so I will not open up to anyone and that includes my best friend.. but yeah.. they can share anything with me (which they do all the time) but for me, I would only talk to them when i really have to.. but they are free to phone me or ask for my advice at any time :)

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One of my closest childhood friend and I are frank with each other about such things. For example, sometimes when i call her up, sheā€™ll say that sheā€™s not in the mood to talk and is tired. I donā€™t mind. Because I understand that her life doesnā€™t revolve around me. And a good and sincere friend will understand that you have other obligations to fulfill and canā€™t spend every weekend with them.

Here is how I would handle the situation. If you are afraid that your friends will get mad, then communicate with them. Have a face-to-face talk with all of them at onceā€¦and tell them that you love hanging out with them, but unfortunately itā€™s hard for you to see them every weekend because of various commitments and that you hope they understand. This way you can see their facial expressions and hear what they have to say. And they will appreciate your honesty instead of having to guess why you never visit them and making assumptions that you donā€™t like them.

And although you canā€™t hang out with your friends every weekendā€¦why not consider every other weekend. Or maybe decide to hang out with them outside of college at least 2 times a month. Set a limit for yourself and let your friends now how often you can see them. That way they will be prepared and wonā€™t get hurt.

If itā€™s hard for you to see them outside of uniā€¦then consider inviting them to your house once in a while instead. And if distance is an issue. You can arrange to meet them occasionally in more closer and convenient location. Also, you can make up for not meeting them by calling them and emailing as well.

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I believe there is no such thing as a friend. The only people you can really trust is family.

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DB, it's hard to find a sincere friend....I'll agree to that :) However, you can meet people who are pretty genuine.

You have more than your family.....what about that hamburger eating hotty??? ;)

Kidding. LOL. I agree though, it's tough to find sincere people. So, now I'm more careful about what I disclose to others.

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Oh yeah my hamburger eating hottie.... i know i can trust him, the only thing he cares about is food... so i dont have to worry about him stabbing me in the back!!

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You wouldnt be saying this if you had my extended family (not immediate, alhamdulilah!) :hehe:

You can not choose your family, at least you can choose your friends - so one better do a good job at it.

Alhamdulilah I have a very close circle of friends and I can (and have) trust them with my life. A good and sincere friend is an absolute blessing.

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I stick to my old social circle.. newbies can be aquantainces, but not friends. A friend is someone that makes u the center of their being.. an aquaintance is just there.

~AV Lassi and Paraatha break April 2013~
~AV Lassi and Paraatha break April 2013~
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My closest friends I treat them like family. They understand if I don't want to talk or hang out. They understood my family situation and the type of person I am which is we talk freely if we have any problems within the group.

There are plenty of people who are 'friends'; they are there for a certain purpose or because they want to be part of the 'it' crowd. You find these type of friends mainly at school/college/university.

If you do not want to spend too much time with them, don't. If you feel it is unnecessary, then you know what is best for you. You may feel like the odd one out at times but trust me some people may just be there so they keep up appearances so to speak.

Timepass - March 2013
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redvelvet: Thanks! Your post made absolute sense :) The thing is, I have spoken to them all quite a few times in the past.. each time though, they kinda refuse to understand - they don't blatantly say this, but I can sense it from the way they react. So then I just stopped explaining, and simply told them I had other things to do. I was just wondering, whether its normal of me to feel like getting away from them sometimes..

And, I agree with those who say its hard to find a good & sincere friend.. It definitely is.

Timepass - March 2013
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LOL, isnā€™t the pic just soo cute? I loved it when I saw it, hehe! And Chipkali ka kya karoon.. itā€™s a nick iā€™m stuck with! :snooty:

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Truly very complicated but I have one word to say. Volatile relationship with my friends in Dubai. Bare in mind that when I say friends I mean general acquaintances or people I meet more than once and keep meeting. It does not mean that I open up to them. Heck, I hardly open up to my cousins. For me there are couple of categories of friends.

  1. Class mates: People I meet in a class for a semester and add them on facebook to interact with them and exchange notes and get together once in a while.

  2. Batch mates: The people that are in my batch for my major. We are all media students and we are all in the same classes from the past 4 semesters. We see each other each and every day and we have gotten to know each other really well.

  3. Friends: These people are friends but it is like there is a cool off period every two three months. At one point of time we talk like anything and then we do not talk for months and then start talking again. Of course they are on facebook so the occasional ā€œlong time no seeā€ or ā€œhappy birthdayā€ is exchanged when in the cool off period.

  4. Good friends: My life most of the times rotates around them and I speak about them a lot. Be it in real life or mentioning them in blogs etc. My photos will occasionally be snapped with my good friends. Going to movies, having lunches with them, hanging around university with them it all comes with the package of being my good friend.

  5. Best friends: At the moment, I do not have any best friends in university or Dubai. I just had one best friend in university. I used to be good friendā€™s with a girl and called her best friend but we parted ways. So, now doing something different, I have bonded with a girl who I met on gupshup and know her from the past 5 years now. She is my bestest friend in the whole wide world. Be it in Dubai/Real Life/Virtual Life/After Life:cb:

  6. Yes yes, there is a Sixth category as well. something that comes even after a best friend? That is of a friend so great to you that you think of her as a sister. I have one person in my life that I can tell anything to. Even my worries and troubles with my best friend because I trust her. I love talking to her. I found her from Gupshup. Would love to meet her one day :slight_smile: If you are reading this, bhen jee me luvs yew:cb:

So this is my friendsā€¦ Cousins unfortunately do not come into any category. I am not close to any of my female cousins:cb:

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Exactly :k:

smiley wala thread!
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I had this friend 2 yrs ago he was my bestest friend ! He would even give up his life for me ! & vice versa !.....

But sadly now he's my biggest enemy ! & now if we come across each other then we would end up taking each other life !.....

Can you believe it? My best friend turned into my worst enemy ever ! & this was all because of one girl......:( How one girl changed our friendship to dushmani......:(

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hahahah same thing happened to me! my best friend turned into my biggest enemy because of a guy:omg:

Bait Bazi March 2013
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hmmmmm
Shaz I have friends from when we were in grade 5-10
hmmm
some time we did not speak for years. So time got mad at each other too. And cut off ties.
BUT
even then we will do any thing for each other. I know my interest are safe them being there.
hmmmm
interesting thing is ..... our families still consider us friends even we are on worst terms.

You know dude.. its just like have brother.. talk or no talk we are there for each other.
hmmm we are blessed.

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honey that how deep chick friendship is!!!
We know that since we found out chicks are different form boys.

Bait Bazi March 2013
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PM : Dude this girl was/is/ & will always be responsible for our dushmani......she was jus jealous ! Even my family knew him (my friend) & even today they talk about him, ask me where he how he is etc etc but i have nothing to say ! I am out of words.....

I just can't believe it & i know now we can never be friends & i guess he knows this too and beside i have no contact with him any more now, don't know where he is, how he is & i don't even know if he's even alive or not. We were friends for like 4 yrs & it only took us 2 weeks to become each other dushman. How sad ! :(

Bait Bazi March 2013