The attraction between opposites has been there since the dawn of mankind. Every now and then we see where opposites are or claim to be friends.
Here’s the burning question:
Can a male and a female truly just be friends? (inspired by Eddie n Jobo B96 :D)
This is what they were saying, most people like to be friends with those who they’re attracted to (even at a friendship level). Guys (and i’m not generalizing) tend to be attracted to a female, and sooner or later it will lead down the road to expression of true feelings towards each other. Maybe not in Desi culture, but in American culture it’s apparent.
Although it’s no statistical claim, because there are instances where two can and do remain just friends. However, more often than usual, that’s not the case for whatever reason.
And i tend to agree with it somewhat from a General P.O.V. that it is hard to maintain just friendship with someone who you are attracted to. What it boils downs to is a different story. You may or may not get to where you want to with that person.
What do you think? Can opposites really just be friends. What about after dating? Thinks the infamous line “Lets just be friends”
i could be friends wtih a guy but i know i will never be on the same level with him as i am with my female friends. (considering i've seen errr too much of em :@: )
I agree with teggy. It's hard to be friends with someone of the opposite gender **if **they are attracted to you. At times one just has to cut down on the amount that you communicate with someone, inorder to avoid being involved in a complicated situation.
if the guy is not and girl r not attracted 2 eachother they could b friends..but if say the guy is secretly attracted 2 the girl n she is not..that can put a damper on the friendship..they dont say anythign directly but htey start scting weird..thats hwen u know its time 2 cut the friendship off..
so yeah..its not a great idea 4 a girl 2 b buddy buddy with a guy..when feelings r not clear..nd theyr rimmature..probs can arise..u cant trust anyboyd these dayzz..:(..not even girlz so then how cna u trust a guy?..adds more complications..
first of all there isn't anything that's impossible ..............
this male v/s female friendship varies person to person , but i've seen that guys (that i know) don't open up to female friends the way they open up to their male friends and vice versa , friendships among boys only (or girls only) include spending days n nights togather + sharing yr belongings + all sorts of thoughts n experiences ......but when a guy ( who's single as well) become a close friend with a girl and even if he don't get to share enough time with her ( the way he do with other guys) ,he's likely to end up having feelings for her somehwere in the future ............ such friendship possibly work if both male & female in a friendship already r commited to someone else but what if that bf/ gf/ fiancee'/spouse is posessive and not appreciate or approve this friendship ??
Can a male and a female truly just be friends?
...... as somebody already said , there r exceptions .
i think you could be friends but not close friends bcos attachment leads to confusion & one person out of the friendship starts to luk at the other in a different way which ruins the relationship completely & things are never the same again... i especially think its a bad idea for married ppl to be 'close' friends with ppl from the opposite sex...trouble trouble trouble
The thing that amuses me is the countries which have the most stigma against male-female relations are also the countries where it is most unsafe for women. We think having such strict standards will protect women, but as a woman, where do you feel safer-in Pakistan or US? Of course in the US--a place famous for its open society.
I went to Pakistan recentlyand I was absolutely shocked that every girl told me that it's common for guys to slap your butt in the market. And forget going to the bazaar alone like you do here, siwaal hi nahi paida hota. Someone can say that "oh Pakistan is not following true Islam, we should be even more strict" but obviously many of the rules in that society ARE based on Islam...and when these rules seem to cause the opposite of their objective, it makes one wonder..
You guys are all talking about if the guy starts to develop feelings for the girl, what if it's the other way around? or is that just unheard of? :p
i know some girls who have a ton of guy friends and yet complain that so and so has started falling for her and that friendship is ruined blah blah....and this is is a multiple occurrence, not just a one-time-thing... it's interesting.
