I am new to this forum. A friend of mine got married to this guy who she loves but she had a really quick, small wedding. Basically, she had a small nikah in the local mosque and then the next day a small walima in a restaurant. They didnt have enough time to prepare everything. The reason why the marriage had to be quick because they are both in love but the guys parents wanted to get their son married quickly due to some other reasons, so the guy told his parents that he wanted to marry my friend and everyone agreed etc etc. After the wedding my friend wished she had a nice big wedding with all the functions etc even though she got married to the guy she loves.. She also didnt have professional photos or video and when she saw her pics and video for the first time she was very upset and sad that they didnt come out nice. I do feel sorry for her but at the same time I think she is very lucky to marry someone she loves is this is rare nowadays.
I think she will get over it in time but she now tends to compare her wedding with others wedding in the family and then feels upset again.
I just wanted to ask you guys isnt it more important to get married to the guy you love and have a very small wedding or even just a nikahh or to have an arranged marriage and have a nice lavish wedding.
I just think that my friend should be more grateful but at the same time do feel sorry for her as she always wanted a nice wedding and to look nice on her wedding but due to other circumstances she couldn’t. I dont know what to advice her so that I can reassure her that their are wedding that take place the way she had her wedding?
Have I put this in the right forum? Moderators you can move if you wish. Thanks
Well, if it's not a financial problem for them.... why not suggest that she have a more formal reception party later on.... where she can dress the way she wants and have professional photos and decor and all the accouterments that accompany an elaborate ceremony? People love any excuse for a party. Doesn't matter that she's already married, she can celebrate it again!
As for being happy.... well, yes, she should be happy. But everyone wants nice pics of their wedding.......... being able to dress up like a doll and have some beautiful pics of a happy couple.... well that's pretty priceless too.
for right now she can go for full dress photo shoot with a pro photographer. so she will have some fine memories, for function as suggested by people can be done by throwing a party.
She can do one of two things so she can move past this issue
She can get all dolled up with hubby and have a professional photo shoot done
She can throw a small function for herself and hire a professional photographer/videographer to record/shoot the entire event.
She is lucky to have married the guy she fell in love with but I bet she feels like she didnt get to celebrate such a HUGE moment in her life properly. I dont think she is ungrateful, maybe just wishes she was more prepared and had time to plan her big day...maybe to show her kids, maybe to remember her wedding, maybe just to see herself when she was young and vibrant and how happy she was that day.
best moments in life are the ones that are captured in simple pictures, that well wishing family members can take themselves and no huge fuss is made on extravagant expenses over spending too much money on photography on weddings.
small weddings are sooo classy, i wish when i get married its a nice small private affair, but me and my fiance know too many pple
Your friend is very lucky to marry a guys that she loves, weddings are overated and she could always have a photoshoot done
My advice would be wait till the 5 year anniversery mark and have a huge party where she can dress up:)
You know a small 'reception' might be just the thing...she can get really nicely dressed and take pics and cut a cake but dosen't have to do the usual "dulhan" behavior i.e. sit around while the rest of the party has fun. I'v even been to recpetions where the couple did a 'first dance' something a lot of pakis might think was not cool on an actual shadi but once its a marriage they dont' mind. It coudl be nice and fun. Now a days trend in the states is to take pics of people in their normal enviornment in additon to wedding photos.... might be good idea. In the end other people's weddings are more fun than ones own anyways! tell your freind to chill she got the most improtant part!
thanks for everyones replies:) Sorry replied late aS i was busy....I will make that suggestion for her to have photoshoot or something like that..Who is ami123??
thanks for everyones replies:) Sorry replied late aS i was busy....I will make that suggestion for her to have photoshoot or something like that..Who is ami123??
A guppy with SUSPICIOUSLY SIMILAR wedding day issues as your "friend".
YourPresident was crying with tears of sadness when Ami123 took a break from weddings section, bcos Your President vowed that she would NEVER rest until she knew that Ami's wedding issues were resolved and she could move on in peace.
Please, Sara2008, the best advice I can offer you is to ask your "friend" to come online herself and petition Your President for advice. She is eagerly awaiting your PM.
People who get married to the person they love are sooooo lucky! Just give her examples of people who don't and can't get to marry the person their in love with and worse situations..... she would totally understand and feel like the luckiest person alive and the small wedding wouldn't even matter to her!
GUys lets be nice to the poster ami123. Alot of us post about our issues here, doesnt mean we should bring them out in other posts and make fun of them, esp when they arent here to defend themselves.
Btw, your friend is just like another girl. We are never happy with what we have :D Just give her some tasalli and some of the ideas presented here and hopefully they would be over it soon. Although, i must say if i were at your friend's place, i would be disappointed too. Afterall, every girl dreams of her big day in a certain way and when that doesnt happen, there is bound to be some hard feelings.
