Sara516! well you are saying in such a manner that it seems that you are against the teachings of Islam of hudood for both men and women when you say that conservatism is a bad thing and must not be.
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Islam is not a conservative religion. Infact it's a modern religion, that allows people to live very comfortable lifestyles.
Earlier you also stated that a woman can only work if her husband died or she has to as a necessity for money. That's absurd. Islam allows women to work even if those two conditions are not present. As far as i know, women can work as long as it doesnt negatively affect her husband and kids at home and if they don't feel neglected. Additionally, only she has the say to how that money will be spent, not her husband or her parents.