Friend got divorced - he found out his wife had a history

Lifestyle Relationships
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its not a balochi/pathan ritual einsteins, I've read of some arabs doing the same. lets go easy on the broad brush.

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^ i knew it was widespread in arab countries... first time hearing abt pakis doing it too...

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rockistan..ur friend sounds like a jaahil hypocrite..if she wasnt ‘sati savitri’ b4 her marriage..neither was he!..hisaab barabar..wat is thgis bs about i came clean and she didnt…wat crap!..male shauvinistic pigs make me sick…:disgust:

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maybe im being naive but im finding it hard to believe that anyone can just throw away a marriage over something that happened a long time ago that dint even involve the spouse...

either there were alot more reasons for the divorce like being incompatible or one of them is gay or tried to kill the other, or if this is it...then the guy is a true pig. and he'll get what he deserves, watever religion he is..

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People are less tolerant nowadays. No wonder divorce is so rife. I am not celebrating what the woman did was right but you know Allah puts pardah over our darkest deeds etc, if it is true maybe she didn’t want to disclose it, not even to her husband.

:smack:people take divorce way too lightly I think. Divorce is one of the most despised acts in Islam. Imo, the husband and wife coud have worked through this. However, it seems that hastily that rather that working at the marriage, divorce was more convienent.

Sad!

The Return of Kasauti (Kasauti I)
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I don't It could be real painful to hear intimate detail about your wife from a stranger.
If you ask me that guy who showed her picture and brag about having relation with the girl should shot dead.
And the girl must be pretty DUMB to pick such a loser to have relations with.

The Return of Kasauti (Kasauti I)
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^ I think he said they're not Muslim....

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^I mean I have seen these kinds of guys a lot.
I hate them, they will say any thing about any girl as long as they have some one hearing their bull-crape.

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Okay so maybe she had alot of "fun" in the past. but is it affecting her life with her husband now? i.e., does she have a disease? a child? is she still seeing those men? sleeping with them? if not, then what valid reason husband has to divorce her b/c of that? obviously he wasn't such a farishta either..i can c this problem coming up before a marriage but after marriage, if the couple cares about each other and want to work it out, they will work it out no matter what..and not break it over a stupid reason like this.

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hmmmm

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its all about trust n faith ppl. :chai:

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I agree saieen.

Plus it is to see that person for who they are now and not who they were. People change. You cannot change the past hence work on the future. Loving,caring and being there for someone is seeing that person for who they are now, how they interact with you, not judging them according to previous experiences.

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Can some one split this thread from here, There is some thing very important I need girls perspective about.

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What are you trying to say KA

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I have heard guys talking about their EX-gfs. They usually talk about them in derogatory way.
Making them selves champs. Usually when EX get married, they consider EX,gf's husbands suckers. Some one who accepted their left overs.
How would a girl think about such a husband ?? A sucker?? who couldn't tell used from brand new??

(Excuse my language, but it was required considering the subject.)

The Return of Kasauti (Kasauti I)
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we all live in fool's paradise...including those self-proclaimed-machos, their ex-gfs, their sucker hubbys and everyone else.

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everything seems wrong in this story.y in the first place he wasnt telling this guy its his wifes picture was he suspecting something already?then him beliveing this dude rather then asking his wife.then telling you about it n u discussing it here on gs:aq:

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yeah y pathans im phathan ive never heard anything like this but i ve read graphic novel persapolis,in it seems like its a big deal for iranian women to bleed on their wedding night

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ok i think there might b more to the story but- honestly u kno wat sucks-- ill use sum bad terms here and im sure were all adults or teens but- if a guy goes and has sex with as many girls he wants- hes known as a player/pimp-- if a girl does sumthing like that shes considered a whore--
now if a guy gets married- he wants to find a PURE girl and live happily ever after--- but it sucks for the girl bc a girl cant come out straight up say to her future hubby oh ive had sex- U think hell marry her??IM SORRY but i have not seen or heard of any guy accepting a girl for a past like that- im sorry but dude i think ur friend really jumped to conclusions too fast- if he was being treated right and happy then he shuldda let it go- bc if he knows he wasnt pure then he shuld have accept her too- i feel sorry for the girls side-- how they must have dealt with it!

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^ well said.

It's a shame that people dont take marriage seriously these days. One thing goes wrong (big or small) and they fail to work things out.

Maybe it was in your friends x-wife's best interest that he divorced her.