A very close friend of mine from central jersey just told me that he recently got divorced with his wife (married for about 8 months, no kids) because he found out of her past. They were in good standings but one of the guys he worked with at his accounting firm ended up showing pictures of his college years which had his wife in it. My friend pretended he didn’t know her and asked about his wife <–the guy gave her details only a husband can know and the entire time he was talking to the gentleman who had popped his wife’s cherry a very long time ago. I know my friend wasn’t an angel himself and he made the wrong decision but it is what it is and he just couldn’t live with the fact that she lied to him about it because according to him he confessed everything from day one (which i highly doubt)but it’s gotta be more to the story.
Ouch. Doesn’t that suck! I wonder if you all have stories similar to that?
Re: Friend got divorced - he found out his wife had a history
Is your friend a virgin before his marriage? Even if he was, what was his proof that his collegue was not lying about his wife.
another thing, even if the girl made that mistake, was she not loyal to her hubby now. People do make mistakes and I think that it was very stupid of that guy to divorce his wife based on something that happened in her past.
It was an ultimate shame that he shared that with you
Is your friend a virgin before his marriage? Even if he was, what was his proof that his collegue was not lying about his wife.
another thing, even if the girl made that mistake, was she not loyal to her hubby now. People do make mistakes and I think that it was very stupid of that guy to divorce his wife based on something that happened in her past.
It was an ultimate shame that he shared that with you
Is your friend a virgin before his marriage? No idea but I'm assuming he's not.Even if he was, what was his proof that his collegue was not lying about his wife.Proof was that he mentioned things only he(husband) would know. I guess scar? something else?
another thing, even if the girl made that mistake, was she not loyal to her hubby now.I'm not sure, he didn't tell me that part. People do make mistakes and I think that it was very stupid of that guy to divorce his wife based on something that happened in her past.You think he's stupid, he thinks otherwise. We all have different opinions.
It was an ultimate shame that he shared that with you** That's what people do, just like you're sharing your opinion about how he shouldn't have left her for her past.**
Re: Friend got divorced - he found out his wife had a history
Your friend jumped too fast, din he? If he was indeed getting along with his wife, why look at her past? I'm sure he must have done some not so nice stuff as well. I'm sure that friend who showed the pic was well aware that the 2 were married. Maybe he was up to no good. Unless this was meant to be a great storyline for a Bollywood movie.
No the co-worker didn't know about his wife at all. That's what he told me...but I know what he did was wrong because he wasn't an angel himself. His valid point was that she never told him anything and said she's always been clean since day one. He said she admitted to it (i kinda doubt that) but GOD knows what else happened. Maybe he's the culprit!
Re: Friend got divorced - he found out his wife had a history
I'm sure there's more to the story than you know, Rockistan. What's done is done. It's a pity he couldn't handle himself. Was it is a quick 3 talaq word thing in a moment of anger? Was family involved?
Is your friend a virgin before his marriage? Even if he was, what was his proof that his collegue was not lying about his wife.
another thing, even if the girl made that mistake, was she not loyal to her hubby now. People do make mistakes and I think that it was very stupid of that guy to divorce his wife based on something that happened in her past.
You are right about what you are saying. You , me and many more have enlightened mentality, but lots of desi do not. Before I moved to US I had the same mentality and feelings about how a girl/women have no right to make mistakes in their lives , only men have that right.
Some friends are so close that they share much more than this. After all this guy would be bitter about what happened and would like to share his story and feelings to calm himself down.
Unless this was meant to be a great storyline for a Bollywood movie.
Not really, I have a couple of similar real life stories about my friends and acquaintances but would not like to share at this time.
Re: Friend got divorced - he found out his wife had a history
Well, you do have a point there. I just feel he acted a bit too immaturely. He could have asked for a temporary separation or talked to some elders or a close friend before making an irreversible decision.
Now what is he going to do? Get a virginity check from his prospective next wife? Is he willing to do the same?
Well, you do have a point there. I just feel he acted a bit too immaturely. He could have asked for a temporary separation or talked to some elders or a close friend before making an irreversible decision.
Now what is he going to do? Get a virginity check from his prospective next wife? Is he willing to do the same?
I agree he acted immaturely. Who knows he might have talked to elders and friends who had mentality similar to him and told him to divorce her.
At least he did not loose his sanity. What if he had resorted to honor killing of her and this guy what could anybody do then. Virginity of future wife is so important to desi guys even if they had been worst fornicators all their lives before getting married.
Well, you do have a point there. I just feel he acted a bit too immaturely. He could have asked for a temporary separation or talked to some elders or a close friend before making an irreversible decision.
Now what is he going to do? Get a virginity check from his prospective next wife? Is he willing to do the same?
I guess a simple court process would be the way to do it. In this case, maybe he could remarry her, forgive and forget, and live happily ever after. But oh well. :hinna:
