NaanGuard, you need to get off of instagram for your own mental health. I personally do not have one and I can only imagine how it would feel to constantly be bombarded by others who seem to have it all, beauty, health, career, etc. First you need to understand that what they portray is only a minuscule of what goes on in their life. Second, a lot of stuff you see is fake. Third and most important, this is the part of life you have control over. You do not have to be constantly bombarded with perfect images and drain your self esteem, you can choose to deactivate your account.
Being alone while being surrounded by a crowd is a feeling I know all too well so help yourself wherever you can. My two cents.
My thoughts on freedom are still evolving and not exactly sure what does freedom really means. I think the definition of freedom changes with time and needs of people. For example for me when I moved to the US for graduate school in my early 20s, for me the freedom was being on my own, pay my own fee, live by myself with no Mom around asking every 5 minutes what are you watching, kuch khaya kay naheen, aur having my Dad keep bugging me with what are you going to do with your life. I got all that in the US right away but than it came with a cost of loneliness, very soon the things I hated, I started to miss, I loved my freedom but i never had enough money to enjoy this freedom. Fast forward, after grad school, my idea of freedom was to enjoy things like a fast cars, better apartments, night outs, all that happened but again at the cost of even longer periods of no contact with immediate family etc. and suddenly its 10 years in the US with only 2 or 3 visits back home. That cost of loneliness and away from immediate family was steep for every one. Fast forward now, living happily in home with family, seems like we have all the freedom, no Mother in laws for either me or my wife around to mess up, no other nosy relatives around but the cost again is our young children are farther away from any of their cousins etc.
So i guess from my perspective and experience, freedom perhaps does come with cost of loneliness.
Someone who’s truly ‘free’ is never lonely. ‘Freedom’ also has many definiations. What exactly is your definition? Nobody is completely ‘free’ as everyone is tied down more or less to a certain degree ro some place or someone or something. To me, freedom is a precious blessing that I cherish (dont give any place or anyone or anything that much control over me to tie me down) & would not exchange it for any price. Live life by your own rules (without hurting anyone else offcourse).
Sometimes there are bigger causes I had to stop living for myself after the birth of our children, I get up at 6 am make breakfast for lil Harris, pack lunch for the eldest, go to the lake stay there waiting for Harris to finish practice till 9.30, do some groceries maybe make some dinner and go to work. most of my days are 15 hrs long. My party days, hanging at the gym going to clubs is all over but I feel it was a great trade off.
Yeah Bobs, that’s why I said freedom may have different meaning for different people. Completely depends on someone’s priorities in life. Freedom is actually being able to do what makes you happy. If locking yourself up in a library with lots of books around you without any interruption is what makes you happy & you can actually do that then that’s freedom. Similarly, travelling, exploring places and the unseen is what excites you and fills you up with (good) energy & you are able to do that then that is freedom. Many people find contentment providing for their families, doing things for them and sacrificing and if they are able to do that then that is freedom and a blessing of God. That is why I say that freedom is a blessing of God. Being able to do what you enjoy doing is freedom (a blessing of God).
May God also bless you with more freedom to do what you wish to do & more blessings.
Yes it’s true that artists have sensitive radars, better foresight & insight. Mystiques have those same qualities just ultra sensitive like birds & animals. While singing excites me, gives me peace and contentment, Im a combination of a mystique & artist with mystique being the dominant matter of the combination.
You are right about the animals, we had some severe weather come our way at the evening practice at the lake and just before the storm all the ducks left for shelter. Native Indians here are quite mystical also and make some darn good predictions.
I like the quote…and agree to an extend.
I think the most important thing in life is to have a goal/purpose…and goals that free us from nonsense and unnecessary baggage are awesome
You know..I do take breaks from Instagram and other social media, but there are so many examples of people around me that I know that are successful and I compare my self to them. The cycle just continues..its something I just chose to live with and can’t really do anything about other than push my self to do better. Some days I make progress other days I don’t and regress backwards. Although praying to Allah helps ease the pain it usually comes back later when someone starts telling me how great their “husband/wife/cousin/uncle/friend is.” I think the best way to describe loneliness is like being a black sheep permanently, although people tell you, you are FAAAAAAAAAAAAAAR from it…but its that type of feeling. Like you’re always the odd one out in whatever endeavor you take part in.You can be in the crowd, heck can even be the leader of that crowd..but sometimes being the leader can be the lonelinest. It’s the feeling that you’re the odd one out in the crowd, that you don’t belong. "One of these things is not like the others.."Any ways…I only go on social media initially for the funny meme’s and the news, but every now again a friend or a random post will come up. Someone got married…oh someone got promoted..etc.
ive heard that bf gps…native americans would remember routes in oceans and other areas just by memory…
imagine having that great a memory to remember so much…im lost without gps…
I am passionate about all sorts of cooking, I am really good at Nihari, haleem, bihari kebab and also western cuisine. I volunteered to cook for the club during a training camp and they still talk about the food. It really feels good to not depend on someone to feed you or look after you. Here is the prime rib from the club. Today the athletes and their parents begged me for butter chicken. We cook for them on Meaty Fridays.
