Freedom = loneliness

[aqua70]

Re: Freedom = loneliness

@NaanGuard

Freedom does not equal loneliness. You can literally be surrounded by people and still feel lonely. It’s a state of mind and thus considered a psychological disorder which might stem from low self esteem because you are comparing your self to other people and what they have all the time. If you are “free” in the sense you leave your parents and live out on your own. You might be living with a room mate or living with friends and still feel lonely because your state of mind makes you not want to connect with people. When you are “free” so to speak you can do whatever you want, this will also lead you to see what every one else has, and thus you naturally compare your self with them. You don’t see what you actually have and what they don’t. So to a degree..“being free” can lead to loneliness…but I would argue it doesn’t matter. You can be “free” or “in a prison” and still feel lonely.

I know this well because I suffer from this, even though I’m surrounded by people who love and care for me. I still feel lonely on a daily basis. I constantly have to remind my self and push my self to try to connect with people because I rather not deal with people if I can. I also compare my self to people on instagram and I see my self worth go down the drain, and think to my self “why would anyone want to be friends and hangout with me..I’m not like any of those people.”

NaanGuard, you need to get off of instagram for your own mental health. I personally do not have one and I can only imagine how it would feel to constantly be bombarded by others who seem to have it all, beauty, health, career, etc. First you need to understand that what they portray is only a minuscule of what goes on in their life. Second, a lot of stuff you see is fake. Third and most important, this is the part of life you have control over. You do not have to be constantly bombarded with perfect images and drain your self esteem, you can choose to deactivate your account.

Being alone while being surrounded by a crowd is a feeling I know all too well so help yourself wherever you can. My two cents.