Four Marriages for women!!!

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Re: Four Marriages for women!!!

@Thornewood9

I did not say he treated one better than the other. He was the best to all of his wives.
Aisha (ra) may have been better liked but he treated all equally.
He always treated everyone right.
I’m not arguing that point or denying it or debating it.

that is what you typed… I am glad u didnt mean it.

@Thornewood9

Qur’an 4:3 "And if you fear that you cannot act equitably towards orphans, then marry such women as seem good to you, two and three and four; but if you fear that you will not do justice (between them), then (marry) only one or what your right hands possess; this is more proper, that you may not deviate from the right course. "
A Muslim man * may *marry up to four, however, if he cannot deal justly with each of the wives then he has, he is * forbidden * to marry that many; and can marry only one wife, to prevent treating women unfairly. You have to remember that this refers to the man’s ability to treat each of his wives * exactly the same * in every regard: not just materially (ie. food, clothing, shelter, time, money, etc..) but also that he must be able to love them all exactly the same. He must be able to * feel * the same amount of affection and love for each of his wives.

If he cannot do this, then, according to the Qur’an he cannot marry more than one wife.

Quran 4:129
** And you have it not in your power to do justice between wives, even though you may wish (it)…" **

It is very hard to** treat** wives in a similar manner. Even the Prophet peace be upon him couldn’t do it. Aisha (ra) was his favourite. There’s even a hadith about this (can’t find it right now). This means that men are generally not allowed to engage in polygamy. However, Allah included the allowance for multiple wives under specific circumstances. These include war, gender imbalance in certain regions/countries and women’s preference.
After a war where a lot of men are killed, there are usually much higher numbers of women alive than men. In this case, men are permitted to take more than one wife, in order to reproduce at a faster rate than normal in order to repopulate the region. Women are more prevalent in some areas of the world, and men are also allowed to marry multiple wives when this is the situation, in order to ensure that every woman has a male partner and doesn’t have to fend for herself. Some women also prefer to be a second, third or fourth wife; thus polygamy is also allowed in order to accommodate the desires of these women.
But as a general rule, as stated, men are prohibited from engaging in polygamy unless absolutely necessary.

So yeah. Context people. Have to understand the meaning of the whole verse before carrying it out. And although a man can marry without permission from his first wife (unless she stated it in her Nikkah nama) if the first wife is unhappy with his decision and he gets married how will he be treating both wives equally? The second may be happy but the first will be unhappy. There is even a hadith which states that a man who could not treat his wives equally will be raised on Judgement Day with half his body paralysed.
So before making such big decisions muslims should consider the big picture first and the consequences if they make a mistake.