So how many of you girls, who’re married, got an actual marriage proposal from your hubby? especially the ones who got married to teh love of their lives? I mean like get down on one knee, and asking you to marry em.
And girls, who’re not married, would you like to get one of those romantic proposals? I personally would love one. You know go out on a romantic dinner and get proposed to. I think that would be awesome!
I’ve seen with couples who’re in love n stuff and have plans to get married, never really get an actual proposal. I guess thats because when they become a couple, i mean desis, its assumed from the beginning that they are gonna get married, so they talk about getting married and phir parents eik doosrey se baat kar letey hein and thast about it.
Well no personal story but in my school there was a couple who were dating. I don’t know the exact details, but they knew they were getting married and actually had the date set for the summer. Our desi club (corny I know) had a show, and after the dance to “Mahe Ve”, the guy got down on one knee and proposed to her. It was cute
Aren’t mother in-laws the ones who make the final decision as to who their son gets married to in most desi cases? So that really leaves no room for the groom-2-be to get down on his knees and propose the girl, as his mother (in most cases) would be the one making the final choice.
Anyway, I could care less about getting down on the knees business. I’d want to have in-laws come over and speak to parents properly and do it the way it is done. Khatam kahani. :k:
Tikhi - howw did he do it? tell me someday on msn or something …and please do so
Saadiyah - i m all for the whole parents thing and being proper n all, thats a given. I amjust talking about something jus tbetween teh guy adn the girl. Ofcourse in ana rrranged marriage i guess the guy n girl dont even know each otehr so they wont do it. I am talking about ppl who know each otehr before they get married.
There's no point in a formal proposal when it can still be vetoed by the parents.
A formal proposal only has point to it when the proposer and proposee don't really care what the parents think.
After all, how romantic would you find it if a guy got down on one knee to you, in the most romantic location and at the romantic time and said:
**"Passo, will you marry me? This offer of marriage is entirely conditional upon both acceptance of yourself by my parents and the reciprocal acceptance of myself by your parents"
**Or, less dramatically,
"Passo, will you marry me provided that our parents also agree to it?"
&Passionate, I was referring to the not-so-arranged marriages. Let the parents come and do the talking, as they will be the ones making the final decision. What good would it do if the guy you love/like proposes you then comes back a week later telling you that his parents aren't okay with it?
The man should first get down on one knee before his parents.
Then, he should get down on one knee before the girl.
Then, he should get down on one knee before the girl's parents.
(Note: In extended families with decentralized power, he may have to get down on his knees many more times. The progression to next getting-down-on-knee is contingent upon the success of the preceding one).
pulling her hair out at the people who only think in black and white
Okay my dear mad_scientist and Saadiyah - I am saying that even if everything's already planned out. Shaadi on 22nd of May or whatever, the guy should still propose to the girl formally!
And one more thing, i dont see why somebody cant propose formally and then talk to his/her parents. The formal proposal thing from a guy to a girl is a western thing anyways right and even when they get engaged it can get broken off for one reason or another. And even if the parents (in a desi case) have already planned everything out, that wedding might end up not happening either. So sometimes it doesnt really matter if the parents agree or not.
The question is posed at girls but from man's perspective, I won't ever do that regardless of how romantic it may feel. The only time I will do that is after I will get engaged. That is, ask her to marry me:D How's that for innovative rather improvisate?
but in my school there was a couple who were dating. I don’t know the exact details, but they knew they were getting married and actually had the date set for the summer. Our desi club (corny I know) had a show, and after the dance to “Mahe Ve”, the guy got down on one knee and proposed to her. It was cute 
she’ll change her mind
